There are a few things about Russia that I can not understand. I’ve been here 4 times, each visit, I stay at least 7 days…and I still can not figure out why texi drivers and clerks at stores (specifically at grocery stores) get peeved when you don’t have the exact change. It makes no sense!
I also don’t understand the driving here. It is like one of those crazy video games – in real life. It is unusual to be here for any length of time and not see a fatal accident. Which brings me to another oddity of Russia. When there is a bad accident – no one seems too excited about it. We saw one (again) today, there looked to be a dead guy in one of the cars…and no one was really doing anything. A few people standing around and a police officer measuring something on the road. Odd.
Wearing the same outfit for days on end. Maybe it is because of what I do for a living, but I don’t get it. Apparently, Russians wash out their clothes at night, and wear the same thing the next day.
Beer…everywhere beer. Not vodka – beer. Beer in the hands of everyone on the streets; kids, grandmothers, amputees, men, well dressed women. Everyone!
The inequality of good looking people. As I mentioned in another post – there are a lot of beautiful women here. Even those girls who are ‘ok’ have striking features. Men – not so much. I think I’ve only seen maybe 3-4 good looking men.
Fish for breakfast. I know that this is a ‘thing’ at home too (I watch Martha Stewart – and yes, I know she has salmon every morning). But common – yuck! A little fish with your corn flakes!?
Why are there SO MANY ½ built buildings all over the place…but a ton of new construction going on?
And I really do not understand how I got SO MANY mosquito bites all over my arms and hands! UGH!
I do understand feeding children tea, pushing and shoving instead of orderly lines (to get on an airplane, pay for something, walk through a door…), and how ridiculously hot it is in the mall. The bottom line? There’s no place like home!
Saturday, September 08, 2007
Friday, September 07, 2007
IRKUTSK
For any of you who have been to Irkutsk – you will appreciate how much it has changed. When we first came here (3 years ago), very few places took credit cards, and the only familiar place was Benetton. Now, there is what appears to be a Domino’s Pizza, Burger King, and most places take credit cards.
There is construction all over the place - lots of new buildings and places to go. It's like a new city!
There is construction all over the place - lots of new buildings and places to go. It's like a new city!
Anya's mama and papa
Anya has gone past calling us mama and papa. Now, we’re officially mommy and pappy. More specifically – HER mommy and pappy. Anya goes back and forth to who is her favorite. Today – I was her favorite. Everything I did – she did. It was so cute! She asked me to get her 2 lipsticks, because I had 2 lipsticks (her lipstick is Pooh chap stick). She wants sunglasses because mama has sun glasses. She wants earrings, because I have them (we have those play stick on earrings…yesterday she had 4 on each ear!). She likes her red shoes because Mama has red shoes. She has taken to mimicking everything that I do…I stand and put my hand on my hip – and so does she. Whatever I say – she repeats. Needless to say, I probably need to be careful about the words I choose!
Little Stinker
We are back at the apartment for lunch after our time with Anya this morning. When we got there, she was being taken into the doctor's office for some kind of finger-prick. She was not happy about that!
After she calmed down from that - she was in a mood! I don't know what they fed her for breakfast, but it really wound her up! I seem to remember during our last trip - toward the end of our stay, she started testing her boundaries and so on. One good thing is when she starts acting up (throwing toys, climbing on furniture etc.), we tell her no - and she does stop. It's easy to redirect her attention to something more productive.
We brought some string and beads with us today so Anya could make necklaces for all of the kids in her group. There are 10 children - 3 girls and 7 boys. All of the children loved their new bead necklaces! It will be interesting to see how many of them survive lunch.
more later!
After she calmed down from that - she was in a mood! I don't know what they fed her for breakfast, but it really wound her up! I seem to remember during our last trip - toward the end of our stay, she started testing her boundaries and so on. One good thing is when she starts acting up (throwing toys, climbing on furniture etc.), we tell her no - and she does stop. It's easy to redirect her attention to something more productive.
We brought some string and beads with us today so Anya could make necklaces for all of the kids in her group. There are 10 children - 3 girls and 7 boys. All of the children loved their new bead necklaces! It will be interesting to see how many of them survive lunch.
more later!
Thursday, September 06, 2007
Document update
Before we head to the Detski Dom today, I thought I would post a quick update on our paperwork.
The statement from the Judge was interesting. The main problems she has with our documents is our Indiana State apostille. I did work with the State Department to have them change it, however, apparently it is not a PERFECT square (something that you could only find if you measured it with a ruler...by eyeballing it, it looks like a square). She is also saying that the way the apostille is attached to the document isn't legit. Whatever that means.
We will need to find the Russian version of the Hague detailing the 2003 (I think) update/revisions. We just need to show her that the things she is asking for are not the law.
Other changes are minor. Nothing we can't take care of swiftly. We have until September 25th to comply. Our lawyer said that typically, families do not comply with every change detailed in the Judge's first statement. Some of the things the Judge asked for in the statement, she was provided - which means that our lawyer needs to go back to her to show that we did provide that. Once the lawyer and Judge agree - the legal statement is revised, deleting that point.
This morning I will need to get a hold of our friends in Moscow to help us redo some medical forms, and to redo a letter from the Embassy. The Embassy provided us with a standard letter that is used throughout Russia...but of course, this letter isn't good enough for the Judge.
Like I said, the changes are minor - and a matter of "majoring in minors". The most concerning thing I can see is the apostille. Gathering all 125 documents last time for our dossier about sent me over the edge. I can't imagine having to do that again. I will...but the thought of it makes me want to curl up in a corner and hide.
Please pray that we can quickly find the information on the Hague in Russian. I have a weblinnk - however it is in English. If anyone out there has a link - please forward it to me!
The statement from the Judge was interesting. The main problems she has with our documents is our Indiana State apostille. I did work with the State Department to have them change it, however, apparently it is not a PERFECT square (something that you could only find if you measured it with a ruler...by eyeballing it, it looks like a square). She is also saying that the way the apostille is attached to the document isn't legit. Whatever that means.
We will need to find the Russian version of the Hague detailing the 2003 (I think) update/revisions. We just need to show her that the things she is asking for are not the law.
Other changes are minor. Nothing we can't take care of swiftly. We have until September 25th to comply. Our lawyer said that typically, families do not comply with every change detailed in the Judge's first statement. Some of the things the Judge asked for in the statement, she was provided - which means that our lawyer needs to go back to her to show that we did provide that. Once the lawyer and Judge agree - the legal statement is revised, deleting that point.
This morning I will need to get a hold of our friends in Moscow to help us redo some medical forms, and to redo a letter from the Embassy. The Embassy provided us with a standard letter that is used throughout Russia...but of course, this letter isn't good enough for the Judge.
Like I said, the changes are minor - and a matter of "majoring in minors". The most concerning thing I can see is the apostille. Gathering all 125 documents last time for our dossier about sent me over the edge. I can't imagine having to do that again. I will...but the thought of it makes me want to curl up in a corner and hide.
Please pray that we can quickly find the information on the Hague in Russian. I have a weblinnk - however it is in English. If anyone out there has a link - please forward it to me!
Thursday
I tell ya, the more time that we spend with Anya, the more in love with her I seem to be. There is something to seeing our little girl’s face in the morning light us as we walk into her room. And the look of disappointment at the end of the day when we tell her that it is time for us to go.
I know leaving this time is going to be very hard.
Anya didn’t want to play outside today. We can’t figure out why – other than to notice a change in her personality when we go outside. There are always lots of other kids playing, and Anya clings to us. Maybe showing that we’re hers? One thing I noticed is that when we pay any other child any kind of attention (even to say hello), Anya instantly wants to be picked up. We stayed in for the morning, but were told that she must go outside in the afternoon. She was even taken to the doctor’s office, so the doctor could tell her that it is good for her health to go outside.
We’ve been playing a lot of catch with her. She loves that game. These are some photos of us playing outside this afternoon:
And yes, she has worn the same pants since we gave them to her on Sunday. I bring her new outfits every day, but she insists on wearing those jeans (that are falling off of her booty).
Anya loves to pretend play. We have had several tea parties, we ate a dinner of cabbage, soup and meat at her restaurant (the cost was 5), and we watched her play house with some dolls. She is so imaginative, and so good at imitation. We’ve been working with her every day on English. She likes to show off to the other kids in her group using English words. We will try to put up a video of her speaking some English.
I know leaving this time is going to be very hard.
Anya didn’t want to play outside today. We can’t figure out why – other than to notice a change in her personality when we go outside. There are always lots of other kids playing, and Anya clings to us. Maybe showing that we’re hers? One thing I noticed is that when we pay any other child any kind of attention (even to say hello), Anya instantly wants to be picked up. We stayed in for the morning, but were told that she must go outside in the afternoon. She was even taken to the doctor’s office, so the doctor could tell her that it is good for her health to go outside.
We’ve been playing a lot of catch with her. She loves that game. These are some photos of us playing outside this afternoon:
And yes, she has worn the same pants since we gave them to her on Sunday. I bring her new outfits every day, but she insists on wearing those jeans (that are falling off of her booty).
Anya loves to pretend play. We have had several tea parties, we ate a dinner of cabbage, soup and meat at her restaurant (the cost was 5), and we watched her play house with some dolls. She is so imaginative, and so good at imitation. We’ve been working with her every day on English. She likes to show off to the other kids in her group using English words. We will try to put up a video of her speaking some English.
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
more miracles
We just found out that the Judge will have a statement ready regarding our documents tomorrow afternoon. This is crazy! Legally, she has 5 business days, and we are getting a statement within (basically) 48 hours! Our lawyer and interpreter are dumbfounded. Everyone is scratching their heads, with smiles on their faces. We were also told that no other American family has been able to get this far in the system in 2 years. No one knows what to expect.
Of course, we don't know what this statement will say, but we are continuing to pray that Judge sees everything that she requires in the documents, and doesn't see the things that cause her to reject documents.
It's all too much...we are simply amazed at what God does when a situation is covered in prayer.
...more when we know more!
Of course, we don't know what this statement will say, but we are continuing to pray that Judge sees everything that she requires in the documents, and doesn't see the things that cause her to reject documents.
It's all too much...we are simply amazed at what God does when a situation is covered in prayer.
...more when we know more!
Tuesday, September 04, 2007
IT WAS A MIRACLE
The plan was to meet with the Chief Judge on Tuesday, to ask her to tell Judge Stepanova (and I know I spelled that name wrong) to accept our documents. We had a meeting scheduled yesterday with the Chief Judge, and today with Judge Stepanova.
The miracle started when Judge S. accepted an appointment from us. She only accepts adoption cases and/or appointments every 2 weeks, and this is not a week she was accepting appointments.
Yesterday, we went to the Chief Judge’s office, and within a 2 minute meeting, our documents had been officially submitted to the courts, Judge Stepanova’s assistant got the documents, and the Chief Judge told Judge S. to expedite the review of our documents. The Chief Judge also made sure we knew that all cases are reviewed the same, regardless of nationality. The Chief Judge also said that in the future, if we need to submit changes to our documents, we can do it through her office, and they will be accepted.
When we walked out of the Chief Judge’s office, our lawyer and interpreter both turned to us with looks of awe on their faces. When we got outside, they both said, “that was a miracle”. They did not expect the Chief Judge to accept our documents.
The Judge now has 5 days to review our documents, and give us a written legal response. The response will be those things in our documents that need to be changed, or additional requirements she might have. We will then have 2 ½ weeks to resubmit any changes she has.
Our lawyer will check with Judge Stepanova’s office tomorrow to see if she has reviewed our documents yet. Because the Chief Judge asked her to expedite the review, our lawyer doesn’t think she will take the full 5 days.
We are continuing to pray for miracles. We are praying that Judge Stepanova reviews our documents, and finds no changes or additions. Now THAT would be a mracle!
The miracle started when Judge S. accepted an appointment from us. She only accepts adoption cases and/or appointments every 2 weeks, and this is not a week she was accepting appointments.
Yesterday, we went to the Chief Judge’s office, and within a 2 minute meeting, our documents had been officially submitted to the courts, Judge Stepanova’s assistant got the documents, and the Chief Judge told Judge S. to expedite the review of our documents. The Chief Judge also made sure we knew that all cases are reviewed the same, regardless of nationality. The Chief Judge also said that in the future, if we need to submit changes to our documents, we can do it through her office, and they will be accepted.
When we walked out of the Chief Judge’s office, our lawyer and interpreter both turned to us with looks of awe on their faces. When we got outside, they both said, “that was a miracle”. They did not expect the Chief Judge to accept our documents.
The Judge now has 5 days to review our documents, and give us a written legal response. The response will be those things in our documents that need to be changed, or additional requirements she might have. We will then have 2 ½ weeks to resubmit any changes she has.
Our lawyer will check with Judge Stepanova’s office tomorrow to see if she has reviewed our documents yet. Because the Chief Judge asked her to expedite the review, our lawyer doesn’t think she will take the full 5 days.
We are continuing to pray for miracles. We are praying that Judge Stepanova reviews our documents, and finds no changes or additions. Now THAT would be a mracle!
Monday, September 03, 2007
The beautiful girls of Irkutsk
There is a myth that Russian women are not attractive. For most Americans, when we think of Russian women, we think of the typical babushka. Let me tell you, this is NOT so.
It is remarkable how really beautiful the women are in Irkutsk. I noticed this before on other trips to Siberia, but never as much as this trip. Think of the most beautiful super models, the leggy blondes with perfect skin, hair and form. Those women are typical here!
It’s almost a joke between Marty and I. Absolutely drop dead gorgeous women all around…and I seem to be the one to make sure he take note...Too funny! We are going to try to take some photos – discretely - to post here. If you are a single guy, you might want to consider learning Russian, and vacationing in Irkutsk!
It is remarkable how really beautiful the women are in Irkutsk. I noticed this before on other trips to Siberia, but never as much as this trip. Think of the most beautiful super models, the leggy blondes with perfect skin, hair and form. Those women are typical here!
It’s almost a joke between Marty and I. Absolutely drop dead gorgeous women all around…and I seem to be the one to make sure he take note...Too funny! We are going to try to take some photos – discretely - to post here. If you are a single guy, you might want to consider learning Russian, and vacationing in Irkutsk!
post from Marty...
Today we connected and bonded to Anya in a way that, up to this point, we have not. The other times we were here Anya was a bit stand-offish. When it was time to say goodbye, she was more than happy to go back to her room with her peers (the only "family" she has ever known). This morning, we took her out to the playground where she usually drags us around with much enthusiasm. This time was different. We pushed her on the swing for a few minutes but she lost interest quickly. At a time when she normally wears us out with the energy typical of a 5 year-old, she wanted to be held. She latched on to Kathy's neck with a death grip. She was completely silent as she hung on. It was as if she was a dead battery being charged for the first time. After a long period of time, I asked her if I could hold her. She nodded "yes" and continued the same silent death grip that she had on Kathy. Somehow she plugged into something that transcended the normal child-like desire to play. She sensed, maybe for the first time in her life, a pure source for something she needs more than air. She needs us. She is bonding to us in the way God designed every parent and child to bond.
The director of the baby home told us that Anya is a leader in her group of children. She is a deep thinker, and a compliant child. She is all of these things against all odds. Anya has never known family. She has never been held more than a few minutes by care-givers who cannot possibly satisfy the emotional needs of so many children. Technically, she does not know (nor could she put into words) what she is missing. But the need is still very much there. It's just under the surface waiting for the connection we are so eager and able to give.
We are in the middle of the greatest struggle of her life. The outcome will totally determine her future. We are so thankful that we have the network of committed prayer warriors standing in the gap for us! We can feel the momentum and influence of your partnership with us. We need you all to pull out the "big guns" with us right now as we meet with the people in positions of authority which have the power to govern her future. Please join with us as we petition God to influence them through whatever vehicle he chooses. Pharaoh and Nebuchadnezzar were influenced by dreams. Balaam was influenced by a donkey. God knows EXACTLY what will get their attention.
We all know that the last 5% of any worthwhile endeavor is the hardest. We are definitely at that point and we need you now, more than ever, to help hold our arms up. Thank you all so much! We love you all!
The director of the baby home told us that Anya is a leader in her group of children. She is a deep thinker, and a compliant child. She is all of these things against all odds. Anya has never known family. She has never been held more than a few minutes by care-givers who cannot possibly satisfy the emotional needs of so many children. Technically, she does not know (nor could she put into words) what she is missing. But the need is still very much there. It's just under the surface waiting for the connection we are so eager and able to give.
We are in the middle of the greatest struggle of her life. The outcome will totally determine her future. We are so thankful that we have the network of committed prayer warriors standing in the gap for us! We can feel the momentum and influence of your partnership with us. We need you all to pull out the "big guns" with us right now as we meet with the people in positions of authority which have the power to govern her future. Please join with us as we petition God to influence them through whatever vehicle he chooses. Pharaoh and Nebuchadnezzar were influenced by dreams. Balaam was influenced by a donkey. God knows EXACTLY what will get their attention.
We all know that the last 5% of any worthwhile endeavor is the hardest. We are definitely at that point and we need you now, more than ever, to help hold our arms up. Thank you all so much! We love you all!
Monday September 3, 2007
Monday September 3, 2007
One phrase can sum up today, ugly cry. For those who don’t know what that is, let me offer an explanation. The ugly cry is when you’ve been shoving emotion for a long time, and it finally comes out. It’s when you start crying, and can’t stop. When the tears take your breath away and boo-hooing replaces breath. I know I am an ugly crier, without going into the ugly cry. Maybe that is one reason I don’t like to cry. My nose gets all red, I get these splotches all over my neck and chest, my eyes get really red. That that, and multiply it by 100….that was me in the taxi on the ride from the Detski Dom this morning.
We went to the Children’s Home (Detski Dom) this morning for a visit with Anya. When we got to the home, we had a brief meeting with the director, Helen. She is a wonderful woman who loves the kids. She has been our ally in this process. After the compulsory update on Anya’s development, education and health, we were able to see her in a play. The play was more a program. The adults dressed up as characters, and were teaching the kids different lessons. We have no idea what was being said. Anya noticed us right when we walked in, and a big grin came across her face.
After the play, she came running up to us and jumped in my arms. Anya then took us to her room, so we could be with the caregivers and her group for a while. As the children were having a snack, we enjoyed some tea and chocolate with the caregivers. Of course, Anya was sitting with us, not the other children. Anya introduced us to her group, and made sure to point our which children were wearing her clothes!
We went outside. It is a beautiful day here in Irkutsk. Cool breeze, warm sun. We played on the swing for a while, and then went over to the slide. I picked up Anya off of the slide, and that was the end of the story…for all of us.
She grabbed a hold of me so tight, even if I let go – she would have still been molded to my body. We walked around for a while, and then Papa took over. Anya didn’t want to play, she didn’t want to walk, and she just wanted to be held. It’s funny how a child instinctively knows mama and papa. That innate need a child has to receive affection from parents, the deep need children have for closeness and love. All of that poured out of our little Anya this morning. And, that is ok with us!
One of the caregivers came up to us and said something to the effect that it was time to go inside for lunch. I think our translator told her that we would be going, and come back after lunch. Anya started crying – big, huge elephant tears. She couldn’t put into words why she was crying.
We went back inside, and Marty set her down. The caregivers said something to her – and Anya looked at me. I picked her up again to get her changed into her inside clothes. She was still crying. I can’t tell you how heartbreaking it is to me to have my little girl crying, and know that she doesn’t know why she is crying. It hurts my heart to know how much she needs us. The Detski Dom is a good place, and meets her basic needs very well. But they can not fill the void in her heart that only a mama and papa can. I think Anya knows this, and feels it.
The director told us that she asks all the time when we are coming back. Anya sees other children who have been adopted by a mama and papa. She understands what all that means. She sees other children who get a new mama and papa – and within weeks, they are having a party for the child, and the child goes home with mama and papa. Anya has asked when we will come back for her.
I’ve never felt more like Anya’s mama than I did today. We are more committed than ever to move heaven and earth to bring her home.
We are waiting for a call from a taxi that will take us to a meeting with our lawyer. We’ve received several calls this morning with various questions about our documents and so on. We know that our ‘team’ has been working on preparing our case all day. I’m not a control freak (ok, not much of one)…but I have some ideas on approach of my own. It will be interesting to see what our lawyer says.
AFTERNOON UPDATE
After our meeting with the lawyer and the lawyer at the adoption center - we trucked back to the Detski Dom. Traffic was horrible! We stayed with Anya through dinner. She was in much better spirits this afternoon.
We have 2 very important appointments with officials this week. One is tomorrow morning (at 10:30) and the other is at 10 on Wednesday morning. Please keep us in your prayers – these appointments are critical. We know that God has gone before us to pave the way – or we wouldn’t have been granted these appointments.
One phrase can sum up today, ugly cry. For those who don’t know what that is, let me offer an explanation. The ugly cry is when you’ve been shoving emotion for a long time, and it finally comes out. It’s when you start crying, and can’t stop. When the tears take your breath away and boo-hooing replaces breath. I know I am an ugly crier, without going into the ugly cry. Maybe that is one reason I don’t like to cry. My nose gets all red, I get these splotches all over my neck and chest, my eyes get really red. That that, and multiply it by 100….that was me in the taxi on the ride from the Detski Dom this morning.
We went to the Children’s Home (Detski Dom) this morning for a visit with Anya. When we got to the home, we had a brief meeting with the director, Helen. She is a wonderful woman who loves the kids. She has been our ally in this process. After the compulsory update on Anya’s development, education and health, we were able to see her in a play. The play was more a program. The adults dressed up as characters, and were teaching the kids different lessons. We have no idea what was being said. Anya noticed us right when we walked in, and a big grin came across her face.
After the play, she came running up to us and jumped in my arms. Anya then took us to her room, so we could be with the caregivers and her group for a while. As the children were having a snack, we enjoyed some tea and chocolate with the caregivers. Of course, Anya was sitting with us, not the other children. Anya introduced us to her group, and made sure to point our which children were wearing her clothes!
We went outside. It is a beautiful day here in Irkutsk. Cool breeze, warm sun. We played on the swing for a while, and then went over to the slide. I picked up Anya off of the slide, and that was the end of the story…for all of us.
She grabbed a hold of me so tight, even if I let go – she would have still been molded to my body. We walked around for a while, and then Papa took over. Anya didn’t want to play, she didn’t want to walk, and she just wanted to be held. It’s funny how a child instinctively knows mama and papa. That innate need a child has to receive affection from parents, the deep need children have for closeness and love. All of that poured out of our little Anya this morning. And, that is ok with us!
One of the caregivers came up to us and said something to the effect that it was time to go inside for lunch. I think our translator told her that we would be going, and come back after lunch. Anya started crying – big, huge elephant tears. She couldn’t put into words why she was crying.
We went back inside, and Marty set her down. The caregivers said something to her – and Anya looked at me. I picked her up again to get her changed into her inside clothes. She was still crying. I can’t tell you how heartbreaking it is to me to have my little girl crying, and know that she doesn’t know why she is crying. It hurts my heart to know how much she needs us. The Detski Dom is a good place, and meets her basic needs very well. But they can not fill the void in her heart that only a mama and papa can. I think Anya knows this, and feels it.
The director told us that she asks all the time when we are coming back. Anya sees other children who have been adopted by a mama and papa. She understands what all that means. She sees other children who get a new mama and papa – and within weeks, they are having a party for the child, and the child goes home with mama and papa. Anya has asked when we will come back for her.
I’ve never felt more like Anya’s mama than I did today. We are more committed than ever to move heaven and earth to bring her home.
We are waiting for a call from a taxi that will take us to a meeting with our lawyer. We’ve received several calls this morning with various questions about our documents and so on. We know that our ‘team’ has been working on preparing our case all day. I’m not a control freak (ok, not much of one)…but I have some ideas on approach of my own. It will be interesting to see what our lawyer says.
AFTERNOON UPDATE
After our meeting with the lawyer and the lawyer at the adoption center - we trucked back to the Detski Dom. Traffic was horrible! We stayed with Anya through dinner. She was in much better spirits this afternoon.
We have 2 very important appointments with officials this week. One is tomorrow morning (at 10:30) and the other is at 10 on Wednesday morning. Please keep us in your prayers – these appointments are critical. We know that God has gone before us to pave the way – or we wouldn’t have been granted these appointments.
Sunday, September 02, 2007
TRAVELING
Our travels started off on an odd foot. “What is an odd foot” you ask? Great Question! That is the annoying foot you didn’t know you had, that you found out you had at a very inopportune time.
Anyway – we got to the SB airport early to meet with an acquaintance that is from Russia. We got there at 9am to talk about our plan to meet with the officials in Irkutsk. Somehow, we got our wires crossed, and our friend never made it to the airport. Our flight didn’t take off until 12:45 – so essentially, we were there 3 ½ hours early.
Our flight into Atlanta was slightly late. There is only 1 flight a day to Moscow, so we couldn’t miss it. Because of the delay, we only had 25 minutes to make it from one gate to the next. I don’t think we’ve ever walked so fast!
After a 9 ½ hour flight – we made it to Moscow. And, so did our luggage!
If you know me very well, you know that I have a few hot buttons. Things that always make me mad (or tick me off as my husband would say…I tend to get a little more than just mad). One of these things is having all my “stuff” with me (i.e. the stuff you can’t live without, your slippers – soap, stuff you pack that you would be really upset if it was lost); and the other thing is the baggage weight system with airlines.
It seems there is no consistency with this process. And that makes me mad. I don’t mind paying extra if my baggage is over weight – just tell me what the weight restriction is, or tell me what the fee is – BEFORE I GET TO THE AIRPORT!
I weight balance our luggage every time we fly. I know to the ounce how much everything weighs. I’ve even been known to write down what is in each bag, so when I repack to come home – I will know how much the bags weigh.
I figured out the system flying in the U.S. We only fly Delta, so it helps to know the system for one airline.
Well, then we started flying to Russia.
3 years ago, our bags were heavy. Probably nearly 60 lbs. We were charged $100 for overweight baggage. On the return flight, we were not charged.
2 years ago, I was charged $100 because apparently you are only allowed to check 1 bag between Moscow and Irkutsk.
Last year, we weren’t charged anything on the outbound, however when we were leaving, the lady in Irkutsk at the airport wouldn’t let us get our boarding pass until we paid $125. We didn’t have any cash left from the trip, and they wouldn’t take a credit card. That was a mess! We found an ATM, and figured it out…but I was ON THE EDGE!
This year – I very carefully read all of the rules about baggage on Aeroflot (the Russian airline). I talked with our travel agent to verify what I found on the website. The website clearly says (and yes, this is a quote from the website) “You can check-in 2 places on 23 kg each. Photo camera, portable PC, umbrella are items of carry-on and do not pass through check weigh.” When we checked in, they said we were only allowed 20kg.
We had 2 bags total, One weighed 43lbs (19.5kg), and the other 52lbs (23kg). The woman at the Aeroflot counter in Moscow would not allow us to boarding passes unless we paid a fee for our baggage. The fee was equal to $250! Yes, this is extortion at its finest! I was so mad; I had to walk away from the counter. I really thought I was going to lose it!
So, we got to Irkutsk, and were met at the airport by a friendly face. Our friend who picked us up from the airport was also picking up a lady from Paris who is adopting a child from Angrask (and I know I spelled that wrong). Her flight was also late, and she didn’t have time to claim her baggage in Moscow. Her luggage didn’t make it to Irkutsk – and she is going to court on Monday! Of course, I offered to loan her any clothing that she might need (even though I packed lightly – I have enough to pull together a court-appropriate outfit if necessary).
So – the moral of the story is this. Stop getting all worked up – things could be worse!
Anyway – we got to the SB airport early to meet with an acquaintance that is from Russia. We got there at 9am to talk about our plan to meet with the officials in Irkutsk. Somehow, we got our wires crossed, and our friend never made it to the airport. Our flight didn’t take off until 12:45 – so essentially, we were there 3 ½ hours early.
Our flight into Atlanta was slightly late. There is only 1 flight a day to Moscow, so we couldn’t miss it. Because of the delay, we only had 25 minutes to make it from one gate to the next. I don’t think we’ve ever walked so fast!
After a 9 ½ hour flight – we made it to Moscow. And, so did our luggage!
If you know me very well, you know that I have a few hot buttons. Things that always make me mad (or tick me off as my husband would say…I tend to get a little more than just mad). One of these things is having all my “stuff” with me (i.e. the stuff you can’t live without, your slippers – soap, stuff you pack that you would be really upset if it was lost); and the other thing is the baggage weight system with airlines.
It seems there is no consistency with this process. And that makes me mad. I don’t mind paying extra if my baggage is over weight – just tell me what the weight restriction is, or tell me what the fee is – BEFORE I GET TO THE AIRPORT!
I weight balance our luggage every time we fly. I know to the ounce how much everything weighs. I’ve even been known to write down what is in each bag, so when I repack to come home – I will know how much the bags weigh.
I figured out the system flying in the U.S. We only fly Delta, so it helps to know the system for one airline.
Well, then we started flying to Russia.
3 years ago, our bags were heavy. Probably nearly 60 lbs. We were charged $100 for overweight baggage. On the return flight, we were not charged.
2 years ago, I was charged $100 because apparently you are only allowed to check 1 bag between Moscow and Irkutsk.
Last year, we weren’t charged anything on the outbound, however when we were leaving, the lady in Irkutsk at the airport wouldn’t let us get our boarding pass until we paid $125. We didn’t have any cash left from the trip, and they wouldn’t take a credit card. That was a mess! We found an ATM, and figured it out…but I was ON THE EDGE!
This year – I very carefully read all of the rules about baggage on Aeroflot (the Russian airline). I talked with our travel agent to verify what I found on the website. The website clearly says (and yes, this is a quote from the website) “You can check-in 2 places on 23 kg each. Photo camera, portable PC, umbrella are items of carry-on and do not pass through check weigh.” When we checked in, they said we were only allowed 20kg.
We had 2 bags total, One weighed 43lbs (19.5kg), and the other 52lbs (23kg). The woman at the Aeroflot counter in Moscow would not allow us to boarding passes unless we paid a fee for our baggage. The fee was equal to $250! Yes, this is extortion at its finest! I was so mad; I had to walk away from the counter. I really thought I was going to lose it!
So, we got to Irkutsk, and were met at the airport by a friendly face. Our friend who picked us up from the airport was also picking up a lady from Paris who is adopting a child from Angrask (and I know I spelled that wrong). Her flight was also late, and she didn’t have time to claim her baggage in Moscow. Her luggage didn’t make it to Irkutsk – and she is going to court on Monday! Of course, I offered to loan her any clothing that she might need (even though I packed lightly – I have enough to pull together a court-appropriate outfit if necessary).
So – the moral of the story is this. Stop getting all worked up – things could be worse!
TIP TO SEE ALL PHOTOS
I just uploaded a bunch of photos from today. To see every post about this trip - which would include all of the photos on one screen - click the "Irkutsk Trip 2007" to the right...this will bring up all of the posts about this trip.
We're looking forward to hearing from you!
We're looking forward to hearing from you!
One big change in Anya on this trip is how snuggly she is. The last time we were here, she wasn't so into the hugging, snuggling, tickling etc. That isn't so this time! If she isn't on your lap, she's asking to sit on your lap. I picked her up, and then sat her down (because she was breaking my back because she is SO big!)...and the looked at me, put her hands in the air and gave me a big grin...ya, I picked her up again!
This is a picture that is on the walls by the main entrance of the dom. Anya is the artist! Can you believe that a 5 year old drew this?! I can't even draw this good! Not even if I had a stencil! So - not only is Anya the most beautiful girl in the world, and the smartest, but the most talented artist!
Oh My!
I don't know what they are feeding Anya, but she has gotten SO big!
When we got to the Detski Dom today, Anya saw us at the other end of the hallway, and came running up to us and jumped in our arms. I can not express in words how PERFECT she is. She is so tall!! Generally, during our first visit, she is a little timid - not this time! SHe was talking up a storm, hugging and kissing us. Telling us how she has been waiting to see us.
Saturday, September 01, 2007
quick note
Hello Everyone,
It is 6am on Sunday here in Irkutsk. We're getting ready to go and see Anya this morning. We had a very interesting trip - we will post more later. Just wanted to let everyone know we made it here safe and sound.
-Kathy and Marty
It is 6am on Sunday here in Irkutsk. We're getting ready to go and see Anya this morning. We had a very interesting trip - we will post more later. Just wanted to let everyone know we made it here safe and sound.
-Kathy and Marty
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
weather in Irkutsk
I just checked the weather in Irkutsk. At leasat the lows aren't getting into the 30's. Daytime highs looks to be really nice. Glaf I am well versed in dressing in layers!
Sat Sep 1 Sunny
71°/43°
Sun Sep 2 Mostly Sunny
68°/46°
Mon Sep 3 Mostly Sunny
74°/43°
Tue Sep 4 Scattered Showers
68°/43°
Wed Sep 5 Partly Cloudy
65°/44°
Thu Sep 6 Scattered Showers
67°/44°
Sat Sep 1 Sunny
71°/43°
Sun Sep 2 Mostly Sunny
68°/46°
Mon Sep 3 Mostly Sunny
74°/43°
Tue Sep 4 Scattered Showers
68°/43°
Wed Sep 5 Partly Cloudy
65°/44°
Thu Sep 6 Scattered Showers
67°/44°
Monday, August 27, 2007
the shrinking ToDo list!
We're getting things checked off of the "to do" list. Hard to believe we're really leaving in 2 days! I feel like I have WAY too much to do - but somehow, it will all get done.
I think gadget-man (er, I mean Marty) is done EBaying, and I am confident that we have every kind of gadget we will need on the trip...if not, it'll all be on Ebay!
I've been checking the weather in Irkutsk, and looks like lows are in the high 30's, and highs are in the 70's. Ya - I know...NOT so easy to pack! Winter coat and tank top? Boots and flip flops? Arguh!
I think gadget-man (er, I mean Marty) is done EBaying, and I am confident that we have every kind of gadget we will need on the trip...if not, it'll all be on Ebay!
I've been checking the weather in Irkutsk, and looks like lows are in the high 30's, and highs are in the 70's. Ya - I know...NOT so easy to pack! Winter coat and tank top? Boots and flip flops? Arguh!
Friday, August 24, 2007
The Countdown Is On
In just one week, we'll probably be in Moscow - waiting for our flight to Irkutsk to take off. It's hard to believe that we're leaving in just one week! We won't be updating everyone via email newsletters when we're gone - so follow our journey by visiting our blog.
SUPER MULTI-FAMILY YARD SALE! Was a GREAT Success!
Thank you to those who donated goods to be sold, and to those brave souls who helped us last weekend, and to those of you who stopped over to offer your support. We could not have done it without you!
Special thanks to: the Potterbaum's, Wendy, Kim, Kris, Mom and Mom, and Dan. We owe you HUGE!
We are so blesseed to have such great friends!
SUPER MULTI-FAMILY YARD SALE! Was a GREAT Success!
Thank you to those who donated goods to be sold, and to those brave souls who helped us last weekend, and to those of you who stopped over to offer your support. We could not have done it without you!
Special thanks to: the Potterbaum's, Wendy, Kim, Kris, Mom and Mom, and Dan. We owe you HUGE!
We are so blesseed to have such great friends!
Sunday, August 19, 2007
Church Rummage Sale
Just wanted to pass along some info about a church rummage sale. Goshen Brethren Church has a rummage sale 2x a year. We called them following our yard sale, to come and get the things that didn't sell (that aren't going to consignment or to the Junior League Thrift Shop). Within an hour and 1/2, they were in our driveway with 2 trucks to load up our junk!
If you have some things to donate - give them a call:
Carol Smith
535-3586 cell or 831-6432 home
If you have some things to donate - give them a call:
Carol Smith
535-3586 cell or 831-6432 home
Saturday, August 18, 2007
Whew!
One of my friend's just got back from a mission trip to Haiti. Some of you have heard me talk about Brenda - my friend who lives in Michigan who has adopted from Irkutsk (among other places!).
On her blog, she posted this movie. It is extremely moving. You will not be sorry you watched it!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyheJ480LYA
On her blog, she posted this movie. It is extremely moving. You will not be sorry you watched it!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyheJ480LYA
Friday, August 17, 2007
National Day of Procreation in Russia
from http://www.lifenews.com/int384.html
Russia Allows Citizens Time Off to Have Babies as Underpopulation Worsens
by Steven Ertelt
LifeNews.com Editor
August 15, 2007
Moscow, Russia (LifeNews.com) -- The Russian region of Ulyanovsk has a unique way to respond to the underpopulation crisis plaguing the nation as a result of years of unlimited abortions. It is allowing its citizens time off from work to make a baby and will award prizes to those who give birth on the nation's annual holiday next year.
The regional government has declared September 12 the Day of Conception and wants workers to go home and procreate.
Couples who then give birth on June 12 during the nation's holiday can win anything from cash prizes to cars to refrigerators.
Ulyanovsk, which is about 550 miles east of Moscow, has conducted similar contests since 2005, according to the Denver Post, and the number of participants and prizes awarded each year has risen.
The Russian population has been shrinking since the 1990s as abortion became a means of birth control. The nation is the largest in the world but it has just 141.4 million citizens -- less than half of the United States.
President Vladimir Putin, in May, defined the crisis as the nation's biggest problem and the government is offering hefty bonuses to women who have a second child.
Putin has also focused on adoption to promote the population and foreign adoptions of Russian children are on the decline. He has asked parliament to increase to $166 per month the stipend given to families that adopt children.
The number of abortions in Russia is now about 1.5 million annually, just under the number of births there, which number 1.6 million per year.
New figures show that abortions are on the decline there, but some estimates indicate as many as 10-15 percent of all abortions aren't recorded by the government meaning abortions probably still outnumber births there.
The underpopulation crisis is producing problems such as worker shortages and an inability to support the country's elderly population.
Many European countries have long had policies and programs in place that are intended to raise the birth rate by offsetting some of the costs and consequences of childbearing.
The Russian government has been working to address the problem and has given couples a one-time bonus where it provides parents with a fixed sum of money. Each family receives a bonus of $9,600 following the birth of a second child and any subsequent children.
That's a huge sum of money in a country where the average monthly salary is $330.
Steven Mosher, the president of the Population Research Institute, says the policies have not been working, in part because the nations continue to fund and promote abortion on demand.
"Allowing women to act on their fertility preferences would further increase fertility, thus creating more vital and irreplaceable human capital," he says.
Russia's birthrate has been on the decline for decades and, in 2004, was just 1.17 babies per woman. It was twice as much in 1990, according to the Federal State Statistics Service. Population demographers say that 2.4 children born per woman is necessary for any nation to sustain its population.
The result of these dynamics put together is seen in a recent UN report that shows the Russian population shrinking by one-third by 2050.
Russia Allows Citizens Time Off to Have Babies as Underpopulation Worsens
by Steven Ertelt
LifeNews.com Editor
August 15, 2007
Moscow, Russia (LifeNews.com) -- The Russian region of Ulyanovsk has a unique way to respond to the underpopulation crisis plaguing the nation as a result of years of unlimited abortions. It is allowing its citizens time off from work to make a baby and will award prizes to those who give birth on the nation's annual holiday next year.
The regional government has declared September 12 the Day of Conception and wants workers to go home and procreate.
Couples who then give birth on June 12 during the nation's holiday can win anything from cash prizes to cars to refrigerators.
Ulyanovsk, which is about 550 miles east of Moscow, has conducted similar contests since 2005, according to the Denver Post, and the number of participants and prizes awarded each year has risen.
The Russian population has been shrinking since the 1990s as abortion became a means of birth control. The nation is the largest in the world but it has just 141.4 million citizens -- less than half of the United States.
President Vladimir Putin, in May, defined the crisis as the nation's biggest problem and the government is offering hefty bonuses to women who have a second child.
Putin has also focused on adoption to promote the population and foreign adoptions of Russian children are on the decline. He has asked parliament to increase to $166 per month the stipend given to families that adopt children.
The number of abortions in Russia is now about 1.5 million annually, just under the number of births there, which number 1.6 million per year.
New figures show that abortions are on the decline there, but some estimates indicate as many as 10-15 percent of all abortions aren't recorded by the government meaning abortions probably still outnumber births there.
The underpopulation crisis is producing problems such as worker shortages and an inability to support the country's elderly population.
Many European countries have long had policies and programs in place that are intended to raise the birth rate by offsetting some of the costs and consequences of childbearing.
The Russian government has been working to address the problem and has given couples a one-time bonus where it provides parents with a fixed sum of money. Each family receives a bonus of $9,600 following the birth of a second child and any subsequent children.
That's a huge sum of money in a country where the average monthly salary is $330.
Steven Mosher, the president of the Population Research Institute, says the policies have not been working, in part because the nations continue to fund and promote abortion on demand.
"Allowing women to act on their fertility preferences would further increase fertility, thus creating more vital and irreplaceable human capital," he says.
Russia's birthrate has been on the decline for decades and, in 2004, was just 1.17 babies per woman. It was twice as much in 1990, according to the Federal State Statistics Service. Population demographers say that 2.4 children born per woman is necessary for any nation to sustain its population.
The result of these dynamics put together is seen in a recent UN report that shows the Russian population shrinking by one-third by 2050.
Sunday, August 12, 2007
We heard from our friend in Moscow!
I think all of Russia has been on vacation the past few weeks. We've been trying to get in touch with our friend in Moscow and in Irkutsk - and haven't been able to get in touch with anyone.
FINALLY today, we heard from our friend in Moscow - and he is going to be able to help us with some things we need done there on our trip. I hope this is a good sign - and we hear from everyone else soon!
FINALLY today, we heard from our friend in Moscow - and he is going to be able to help us with some things we need done there on our trip. I hope this is a good sign - and we hear from everyone else soon!
Saturday, August 11, 2007
document are in Irkutsk!
I think it is a miracle! Our documents have arrived in Irkutsk! This is the shortest time in transit for anything we've ever sent over there...and we always send things the same way.
8/11/2007 9:55 am Arrived at DHL facility. Irkutsk, Russian Federation, The
It looks like the Adoption Center will receive our documents on Monday. The last time we sent our documents, they got hung up in customs in Belgium. I know - makes no sense! This time - everything happened perfectly!
Thanks for praying!
8/11/2007 9:55 am Arrived at DHL facility. Irkutsk, Russian Federation, The
It looks like the Adoption Center will receive our documents on Monday. The last time we sent our documents, they got hung up in customs in Belgium. I know - makes no sense! This time - everything happened perfectly!
Thanks for praying!
Friday, August 10, 2007
SUPER MULTI-FAMILY YARD SALE!
SUPER MULTI-FAMILY YARD SALE!
Be a part of our yard sale!
On Saturday August 18th, we will be having a huge yard sale.
TELL EVERYONE!
We will be posting signs all over this side of town, and submitting an ad in the Elkhart Truth.
DON'T WANT TO STICK AROUND AND SELL YOUR STUFF?
We will gladly accept anything you would like to donate to the sale. Unfortunately, we will not be able to allow you to drop off your things for sale, and pay you for what sold at the end of the day. Keeping track of everyone's items would be a nightmare!
FOR SALE
We have:
Lots of size 3T little girls clothes - brand new with tags. Gymboree outfits, Old Navy, Ralph Lauren etc.
Pots and Pans
Beautiful area rug (cream colored with purple, green, pink flowers)
LOTS of random electronic equipment (computer stuff and stereo stuff)
Furniture - a nice chair, sofa, TV/Microwave table, dressing table, lights/lamps, barstool, retro (antique) red/stainless kitchen table (really neat), office-style desk, office-style desk chair.
Housewares: pictures for walls, curtain rods, window treatments, misc. decor items
Luggage
Womans clothing - all designer brands size 2-4-6
Men's clothing - sweaters etc. size med
Craft stuff - scrapbook paper, glue, stationary, floral stuff, crayons
Ping Pong table
and tons more!
Event Info
55754 CR 19
Bristol, Indiana 46507
Saturday, August 18th
8:00AM-2:00pm (or until we sell everything!)
Be a part of our yard sale!
On Saturday August 18th, we will be having a huge yard sale.
TELL EVERYONE!
We will be posting signs all over this side of town, and submitting an ad in the Elkhart Truth.
DON'T WANT TO STICK AROUND AND SELL YOUR STUFF?
We will gladly accept anything you would like to donate to the sale. Unfortunately, we will not be able to allow you to drop off your things for sale, and pay you for what sold at the end of the day. Keeping track of everyone's items would be a nightmare!
FOR SALE
We have:
Lots of size 3T little girls clothes - brand new with tags. Gymboree outfits, Old Navy, Ralph Lauren etc.
Pots and Pans
Beautiful area rug (cream colored with purple, green, pink flowers)
LOTS of random electronic equipment (computer stuff and stereo stuff)
Furniture - a nice chair, sofa, TV/Microwave table, dressing table, lights/lamps, barstool, retro (antique) red/stainless kitchen table (really neat), office-style desk, office-style desk chair.
Housewares: pictures for walls, curtain rods, window treatments, misc. decor items
Luggage
Womans clothing - all designer brands size 2-4-6
Men's clothing - sweaters etc. size med
Craft stuff - scrapbook paper, glue, stationary, floral stuff, crayons
Ping Pong table
and tons more!
Event Info
55754 CR 19
Bristol, Indiana 46507
Saturday, August 18th
8:00AM-2:00pm (or until we sell everything!)
Adoption Update August 10, 2007
DOCUMENTS ARE EN ROUTE!
Without too much drama, we were able to get our documents to Indianapolis and have them correctly apostilled by the Secretary of State. Our dossier is now on the way to Irkutsk! Stay tuned for shipping updates!
Without too much drama, we were able to get our documents to Indianapolis and have them correctly apostilled by the Secretary of State. Our dossier is now on the way to Irkutsk! Stay tuned for shipping updates!
Thursday, August 09, 2007
stop the insanity!
I just don't understand why every time we plan a trip to Russia - random stuff starts to happen. I'm not kidding - this will be our 4th trip to Siberia, and I hve NEVER had so much random crap happen (that's right, I said crap!).
In the past week alone, our dishwasher broke, the over broke, a CD got stuck in the change in my car (which means a trip to the garage), Marty's Mom had surgery, my laptop battery died, Marty's big studio computer's hard drive pooped out - not to mention the typical stresses that come with a trip to Russia (finances, business issues, paperwork stuff).
I need a day off!
In the past week alone, our dishwasher broke, the over broke, a CD got stuck in the change in my car (which means a trip to the garage), Marty's Mom had surgery, my laptop battery died, Marty's big studio computer's hard drive pooped out - not to mention the typical stresses that come with a trip to Russia (finances, business issues, paperwork stuff).
I need a day off!
Saturday, August 04, 2007
Adoption Newsletter August 2
All is well that ends well
Thanks to so many of you for your encouragement last week. Everything has worked out perfectly - with no loss of life or limb! We pick up the last (I think) of our documents for the dossier tomorrow afternoon, so all that will need to be done is massive photocopying. Watch out Copy Max, here I come!
We will be traveling to Hammond early Friday morning to be fingerprinted. We hope to go to Indianapolis on Monday or Wednesday next week to get everything apostilled. We're waiting to hear back from the powers that be in Indy as to what day is best for them.
I can't believe that 1 month from today, we will be in Irkutsk! We have a VERY busy August. Lots of CAbi shows, traveling, projects, deadlines. We keep remembering that God is in control, and He knows that we will need the fruit from our labor for our Russia trip. We'll have 3 days of traveling to sleep and catch our breath before hitting the ground in Irkutsk.
We're both pre-planning our trip. Of course, Marty is already looking into what he can EBay, so that he can get the latest greatest video camera. And, I am hunting for the perfect comfortable walking shoe.
Thanks to so many of you for your encouragement last week. Everything has worked out perfectly - with no loss of life or limb! We pick up the last (I think) of our documents for the dossier tomorrow afternoon, so all that will need to be done is massive photocopying. Watch out Copy Max, here I come!
We will be traveling to Hammond early Friday morning to be fingerprinted. We hope to go to Indianapolis on Monday or Wednesday next week to get everything apostilled. We're waiting to hear back from the powers that be in Indy as to what day is best for them.
I can't believe that 1 month from today, we will be in Irkutsk! We have a VERY busy August. Lots of CAbi shows, traveling, projects, deadlines. We keep remembering that God is in control, and He knows that we will need the fruit from our labor for our Russia trip. We'll have 3 days of traveling to sleep and catch our breath before hitting the ground in Irkutsk.
We're both pre-planning our trip. Of course, Marty is already looking into what he can EBay, so that he can get the latest greatest video camera. And, I am hunting for the perfect comfortable walking shoe.
What will she know - and not know?
I was reading in FRUA tonight, and came across this post. It is about what a little girl did and didn't know when she finally came home. I thought I would pass it along:
My daughter peeled the batter off chicken nuggets. She wanted a big bowl to help wash her hair. No problem with the toilet or paper. Did not like pizza, peanut butter ( also make sure no allergies to peanuts or don't serve if you don't know), any soup that wasn't chicken stock based or light in color. She loved breakfast sausages even more than bananas. Opened every drawer in sight but didn't touch anything inside. Had to be taught how to cross a street or be careful in a parking lot....hold hands even for older children. Sprayed a whole can of air freshner in her bedroom all at onece because it smelled so good...ugh!
One of the hardest things for me was that she didn't understand food preparation. She was used to the food appearing and being ready to eat. So when I would start getting things out to cook, she got very frustrated seeing food but not being able to eat it yet. More so when it was something she really liked. She pretty much wanted to go inside the refrigerator and hang out and eat. Didn't understand why she couldn't do that. Didn't seem to understand that the food would be there later and we could get more when that was gone. Hot stoves were not something she knew about.
She had never touched or smelled a real flower growing in the ground.
She loved jumping on the trampoline
She was not very happy about seat belts but complied after I would pull over and just wait for it to go back on.
She didn't like TV because she couldn't understand it...exception was young childrens cartoons ( Teletubbies, Dora, Dragon Tales, stuff like that. She liked cooking shows after she figured out what cooking was. She loved listening to music. We used only on CD of childrens songs over and over so she eventually got some of the lyrics and could sing along.
She got frustrated when we went to the park. She perceived every child was playing with each other but not with her. I solved this by arranging for a younger child to go with us and they played together. Language wasn't needed and she was very good with little one.
She did not like the feel of socks and shoes. Mostly they wore thread bare socks with sandals. We went with crocs because flip flops hurt her toes.
She could use a knife by herself but not a steak knife ( 4 1/2 years old).
My daughter peeled the batter off chicken nuggets. She wanted a big bowl to help wash her hair. No problem with the toilet or paper. Did not like pizza, peanut butter ( also make sure no allergies to peanuts or don't serve if you don't know), any soup that wasn't chicken stock based or light in color. She loved breakfast sausages even more than bananas. Opened every drawer in sight but didn't touch anything inside. Had to be taught how to cross a street or be careful in a parking lot....hold hands even for older children. Sprayed a whole can of air freshner in her bedroom all at onece because it smelled so good...ugh!
One of the hardest things for me was that she didn't understand food preparation. She was used to the food appearing and being ready to eat. So when I would start getting things out to cook, she got very frustrated seeing food but not being able to eat it yet. More so when it was something she really liked. She pretty much wanted to go inside the refrigerator and hang out and eat. Didn't understand why she couldn't do that. Didn't seem to understand that the food would be there later and we could get more when that was gone. Hot stoves were not something she knew about.
She had never touched or smelled a real flower growing in the ground.
She loved jumping on the trampoline
She was not very happy about seat belts but complied after I would pull over and just wait for it to go back on.
She didn't like TV because she couldn't understand it...exception was young childrens cartoons ( Teletubbies, Dora, Dragon Tales, stuff like that. She liked cooking shows after she figured out what cooking was. She loved listening to music. We used only on CD of childrens songs over and over so she eventually got some of the lyrics and could sing along.
She got frustrated when we went to the park. She perceived every child was playing with each other but not with her. I solved this by arranging for a younger child to go with us and they played together. Language wasn't needed and she was very good with little one.
She did not like the feel of socks and shoes. Mostly they wore thread bare socks with sandals. We went with crocs because flip flops hurt her toes.
She could use a knife by herself but not a steak knife ( 4 1/2 years old).
Thursday, August 02, 2007
worth seeing
I was looking at one of the blogs a pastor at our church has. He has a link fro today on his blog with a video that was shown in our church's mid-week service. We've been exploring worship - what is it, how do you do it etc.
Watch this video...if you don't get a chill or a tear in your eye - SOMETHING IS WRONG! Even Chandler on Friends would need a kleenex after this (Stef is probably the only one who will know what that means!)
http://www.leadingsmart.com/leadingsmart/
Watch this video...if you don't get a chill or a tear in your eye - SOMETHING IS WRONG! Even Chandler on Friends would need a kleenex after this (Stef is probably the only one who will know what that means!)
http://www.leadingsmart.com/leadingsmart/
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Adoption Newsletter - July 29, 2007
THIS WEEK'S UPDATE
Before I start this week's update, let me first apologize. It has been an extremely frustrating week. I am so DONE with paperwork, doctor offices, lawyers and above all - ALL GOVERNMENT OFFICES!
My piece of useful information for this week is this: if you have to work with a government agency - know in advance it will test every ounce of patience you have. We thought we had Florida and Indiana supplying us with the apostille we need on all of our documents-well, that isn't the way it has turned out.
Basically, an apostille is an international notary - it is a document that comes from the Secretary of State, and is something that is internationally recognized. There are standards for the information that should be contained on this document, as well as what size it should be.
Got an email from someone with the State Department on Thursday that said, "We're not in a position to change our practice for this one (1) request - which might jeopardize other transactions if Indiana provides differing Apostille documents."
WHAT? Those that know me well know that I don't respond favorably when I am told 'no' to something that I need. I honestly thought I was going to go postal!
Needless to say, I replied to this person with some strong language, and promised that I would get what I need out of her office! It just infuriates me to think that after all this, the reason we wouldn't be able to get a court date is because of something as simple as this! To top this off, the way they are providing the apostille is NOT within international standard. In my reply - I even included a mocked up version of what the document should look like - really, they could take what I did and just use that for our documents.
I cc'ed a friend who happens to work for the state - and whose office is right down the hall from the Secretary of State. She offered to talk to some friends she has - and long story short - we are going to be able to get done what we need done. I am sure my over-emotional emails only made me sound like a crazy person - I am so grateful to have friends (who know I am not a lunatic) with sound reason and logic - who are willing to help us.
The situation in Florida isn't as frustrating. They're just incompetent. They sent us the correct form; however they didn't send us the document. DUH!
TRAVEL PLANS
If I didn't tell you - we did schedule our trip to Irkutsk. Aug 30 - Sept 9 is when we'll be gone.
Before I start this week's update, let me first apologize. It has been an extremely frustrating week. I am so DONE with paperwork, doctor offices, lawyers and above all - ALL GOVERNMENT OFFICES!
My piece of useful information for this week is this: if you have to work with a government agency - know in advance it will test every ounce of patience you have. We thought we had Florida and Indiana supplying us with the apostille we need on all of our documents-well, that isn't the way it has turned out.
Basically, an apostille is an international notary - it is a document that comes from the Secretary of State, and is something that is internationally recognized. There are standards for the information that should be contained on this document, as well as what size it should be.
Got an email from someone with the State Department on Thursday that said, "We're not in a position to change our practice for this one (1) request - which might jeopardize other transactions if Indiana provides differing Apostille documents."
WHAT? Those that know me well know that I don't respond favorably when I am told 'no' to something that I need. I honestly thought I was going to go postal!
Needless to say, I replied to this person with some strong language, and promised that I would get what I need out of her office! It just infuriates me to think that after all this, the reason we wouldn't be able to get a court date is because of something as simple as this! To top this off, the way they are providing the apostille is NOT within international standard. In my reply - I even included a mocked up version of what the document should look like - really, they could take what I did and just use that for our documents.
I cc'ed a friend who happens to work for the state - and whose office is right down the hall from the Secretary of State. She offered to talk to some friends she has - and long story short - we are going to be able to get done what we need done. I am sure my over-emotional emails only made me sound like a crazy person - I am so grateful to have friends (who know I am not a lunatic) with sound reason and logic - who are willing to help us.
The situation in Florida isn't as frustrating. They're just incompetent. They sent us the correct form; however they didn't send us the document. DUH!
TRAVEL PLANS
If I didn't tell you - we did schedule our trip to Irkutsk. Aug 30 - Sept 9 is when we'll be gone.
Sunday, July 22, 2007
Adoption Newsletter July 21, 2007
THIS WEEK'S UPDATE
Things have been so busy around here; I almost forgot to send out an update!
TRIP TO RUSSIA
We have the trip planned. We're leaving Aug 30th and returning on September 9th. The trip ended up costing us more money than we wanted it to - but God is good! We had to purchase the Moscow - Irkutsk leg of our trip. Initially, we thought this was going to be at least $1,000 (not including the fees etc. for the South Bend - Moscow leg). When all was said and done - the grand total was only $1,000!
Also, typically it costs about $200 to get an invitation and Visa. I've been doing some research, and asking around, and was able to get both invitations and Visas for a total of $90. YA-HOO!
it gets better
Got a call from the Department of Homeland Security the other day. Let me just tell you -when you pick up the phone, and the person on the other end says 'hello Mrs. Friend, this is XXX from the INS" - you sit down-take a deep breath - and hope for the best!
Well, our INS pal was calling to tell us that she was refunding $140 to us for our fingerprints - and issuing a new fingerprint approval form to us for free. It's a long story why - but who cares - GOD IS GOOD!
PAPERWORK
Little by little, we're getting it done. We have been able to get the state of Florida to issue a special apostille to meet the requirements of the judge in Irkutsk. We're still working on the people down in Indianapolis. If need be, we'll take a trip down to Indy and meet with the powers that be in person, but (of course) it all needs to happen fast!
Things have been so busy around here; I almost forgot to send out an update!
TRIP TO RUSSIA
We have the trip planned. We're leaving Aug 30th and returning on September 9th. The trip ended up costing us more money than we wanted it to - but God is good! We had to purchase the Moscow - Irkutsk leg of our trip. Initially, we thought this was going to be at least $1,000 (not including the fees etc. for the South Bend - Moscow leg). When all was said and done - the grand total was only $1,000!
Also, typically it costs about $200 to get an invitation and Visa. I've been doing some research, and asking around, and was able to get both invitations and Visas for a total of $90. YA-HOO!
it gets better
Got a call from the Department of Homeland Security the other day. Let me just tell you -when you pick up the phone, and the person on the other end says 'hello Mrs. Friend, this is XXX from the INS" - you sit down-take a deep breath - and hope for the best!
Well, our INS pal was calling to tell us that she was refunding $140 to us for our fingerprints - and issuing a new fingerprint approval form to us for free. It's a long story why - but who cares - GOD IS GOOD!
PAPERWORK
Little by little, we're getting it done. We have been able to get the state of Florida to issue a special apostille to meet the requirements of the judge in Irkutsk. We're still working on the people down in Indianapolis. If need be, we'll take a trip down to Indy and meet with the powers that be in person, but (of course) it all needs to happen fast!
Saturday, July 14, 2007
Yard Sale
STAY TUNED! FOR INFO ON OUR YARD SALE!
Got stuff to sell? We're planning a yard Sale the first weekend of August.
If you have some things to sell, we invite you to set up a table in our yard and make some money!
Got some stuff someone might want to buy, but you don't want to man a table? We will gladly accept your donations 'to the cause'!
Got stuff to sell? We're planning a yard Sale the first weekend of August.
If you have some things to sell, we invite you to set up a table in our yard and make some money!
Got some stuff someone might want to buy, but you don't want to man a table? We will gladly accept your donations 'to the cause'!
ONLY A FEW MILES TO GO!
ONLY A FEW MILES TO GO!
We booked flights from South Bend to Moscow on August 20. - September 9th.
We have flights HELD from Moscow - Irkutsk - but don't have enough miles for that last leg of the trip. We only need about 38,000 more!
We found a VERY easy, fast, and inexpensive way to apply American Express miles to our Delta frequent flyer accounts. The cost is only about $4 per 20,000 miles.
If you have some AmEx points to spare, please email me and I will tell you how to transfer them to my account. Time is critical (again) we only have the Moscow - Irkutsk portion of our trip held through Monday.
THANK YOU!
We booked flights from South Bend to Moscow on August 20. - September 9th.
We have flights HELD from Moscow - Irkutsk - but don't have enough miles for that last leg of the trip. We only need about 38,000 more!
We found a VERY easy, fast, and inexpensive way to apply American Express miles to our Delta frequent flyer accounts. The cost is only about $4 per 20,000 miles.
If you have some AmEx points to spare, please email me and I will tell you how to transfer them to my account. Time is critical (again) we only have the Moscow - Irkutsk portion of our trip held through Monday.
THANK YOU!
Adoption Update July 13, 2007
THIS WEEK'S UPDATE
GOOD NEWS!
Our French friend had a successful court hearing last week in Irkutsk. She will gain custody of her son next week. Thank you so much for your prayers in this situation - the prayers were definitely answered!
Accreditation of Agencies in Russia. Thanks to so many of you for your notes and calls on this subject. To avoid boring you to death, I've posted the details of this development on our blog (look a few posts down from this one).
Paperwork - it will be the death of me! We have started getting back some of the documents we had to send away for. We ran into the illustrious Mayor of Elkhart on the 4th of July - and he agreed to help us contact the Secretary of State in order to have them correct the way they are doing apostilles. The good news here is that if they simply put a box around the information on the sheet of paper they currently use - that will satisfy the requirement. Seems simple!
Travel to Russia. We are working on traveling sometime the last week of August or the first week of September. We hope that these dates will allow us to travel on minimum frequent flyer miles.
REFERENCES
Many of you have written references for us in the past. Well, we need everything done again. If you feel so moved to write a reference for us to present to the Judge - please mail it to us...and it will help if the letter is on business letterhead. I know - sounds stupid...but the more official it appears, the better.
GOOD NEWS!
Our French friend had a successful court hearing last week in Irkutsk. She will gain custody of her son next week. Thank you so much for your prayers in this situation - the prayers were definitely answered!
Accreditation of Agencies in Russia. Thanks to so many of you for your notes and calls on this subject. To avoid boring you to death, I've posted the details of this development on our blog (look a few posts down from this one).
Paperwork - it will be the death of me! We have started getting back some of the documents we had to send away for. We ran into the illustrious Mayor of Elkhart on the 4th of July - and he agreed to help us contact the Secretary of State in order to have them correct the way they are doing apostilles. The good news here is that if they simply put a box around the information on the sheet of paper they currently use - that will satisfy the requirement. Seems simple!
Travel to Russia. We are working on traveling sometime the last week of August or the first week of September. We hope that these dates will allow us to travel on minimum frequent flyer miles.
REFERENCES
Many of you have written references for us in the past. Well, we need everything done again. If you feel so moved to write a reference for us to present to the Judge - please mail it to us...and it will help if the letter is on business letterhead. I know - sounds stupid...but the more official it appears, the better.
Thursday, July 12, 2007
it's not my birthday...it's just...
TAMI FROM COLUMBUS, OH - MEG FROM TRAVERS CITY - AND ME
Well, I survived another birthday. Yuck. I was kind of hoping that if I ignored it, it wouldn't happen. This year on my b-day, I was reminded that Marty and I have been together since before I turned 30 - a LONG TIME AGO!
Didn't do anything for my bday...but here is a photo of me and some friends - the day before my bday. We were at a conference, and decided that we were all eternally 28!
Moscow Times piece...
http://www.themoscowtimes.com/stories/2007/07/12/002.html
Thursday, July 12, 2007. Issue 3697. Page 1.
Foreign Adoptions Get the Go-Ahead
By Alexander Osipovich
Staff Writer
Russia is reopening its doors to foreign adoptions, months after they all but ground to a halt due to bureaucratic barriers.
Seven U.S. adoption agencies have recently been reaccredited to work in Russia, Sergei Vitelis, an official at the Education and Science Ministry who deals with children's issues, confirmed Wednesday.
Vitelis said he could not provide further details, and the ministry's press service did not respond to questions sent by e-mail Wednesday afternoon.
But the National Council for Adoption, a U.S. research and advocacy organization, said the reaccreditations came over the past two weeks and more agencies are expected to have their licenses renewed soon.
"This will benefit many thousands of children," Thomas Atwood, the organization's president, said by telephone from Alexandria, Virginia.
Foreign adoption agencies working in Russia have not had much to cheer about in the past few years.
In 2005, after the well-publicized deaths of several Russian children at the hands of their adoptive parents in the United States, influential State Duma deputies called for a moratorium on foreign adoptions.
Child advocates criticized the idea, arguing that the number of deadly abuse cases was minuscule compared with the number of children adopted from Russian orphanages by foreign parents.
Russia at the time was the second most popular country for international adoptions by U.S. parents, after China, according to the U.S. State Department.
The moratorium never happened, but foreign adoption agencies began facing greater bureaucratic hurdles. A law passed in 2006 forced them to reregister as nongovernmental organizations.
Many agencies were left hanging after applying for reaccreditation in January. The last two agencies to have accreditation saw their licenses expire in April.
Officials in the Education and Science Ministry, the main government body that deals with international adoption, blamed the delay on bureaucratic hassles, pointing out that each application needed approval from the Interior and Foreign ministries.
Some child advocates, however, suggested that the authorities might have deliberately thrown a wrench into the works because of hostility toward foreign adoption.
Whatever the case, the impasse seems to have ended.
"We believe this to be a substantial step in the direction of the stability of Russian adoption," reads a statement on the web site of the International Assistance Group, one of the agencies that was reaccredited.
The statement appears along with a copy of the agency's new accreditation document from the Education and Science Ministry, dated June 27.
Atwood, of the National Council for Adoption, said he was happy that the agencies had been reaccredited, but he added that the transition to the new rules could have been smoother for the sake of the children waiting for homes.
The seven U.S. agencies to be reaccredited represent only a small portion of the 89 foreign agencies to have accreditation in 2006 before the new requirements went into place. It was not clear Wednesday whether any foreign agencies from countries other than the United States had been reaccredited.
The director of a Moscow charity that works with mentally disabled children expressed happiness at the news when a reporter told him about it. "The government has taken a great step," said Sergei Andrushin, the director of Diema's Dream. "What you said is simply wonderful."
The National Council for Adoption identified the seven agencies to be reaccredited as The Cradle, based in Evanston, Illinois; Cradle of Hope, based in Silver Spring, Maryland; Family and Children's Agency, based in Norwalk, Connecticut; Frank Adoption Center, based in Raleigh, North Carolina; International Assistance Group, based in Oakmont, Pennsylvania; Children's Home Society & Family Services, based in St. Paul, Minnesota; and Catholic Social Services.
Thursday, July 12, 2007. Issue 3697. Page 1.
Foreign Adoptions Get the Go-Ahead
By Alexander Osipovich
Staff Writer
Russia is reopening its doors to foreign adoptions, months after they all but ground to a halt due to bureaucratic barriers.
Seven U.S. adoption agencies have recently been reaccredited to work in Russia, Sergei Vitelis, an official at the Education and Science Ministry who deals with children's issues, confirmed Wednesday.
Vitelis said he could not provide further details, and the ministry's press service did not respond to questions sent by e-mail Wednesday afternoon.
But the National Council for Adoption, a U.S. research and advocacy organization, said the reaccreditations came over the past two weeks and more agencies are expected to have their licenses renewed soon.
"This will benefit many thousands of children," Thomas Atwood, the organization's president, said by telephone from Alexandria, Virginia.
Foreign adoption agencies working in Russia have not had much to cheer about in the past few years.
In 2005, after the well-publicized deaths of several Russian children at the hands of their adoptive parents in the United States, influential State Duma deputies called for a moratorium on foreign adoptions.
Child advocates criticized the idea, arguing that the number of deadly abuse cases was minuscule compared with the number of children adopted from Russian orphanages by foreign parents.
Russia at the time was the second most popular country for international adoptions by U.S. parents, after China, according to the U.S. State Department.
The moratorium never happened, but foreign adoption agencies began facing greater bureaucratic hurdles. A law passed in 2006 forced them to reregister as nongovernmental organizations.
Many agencies were left hanging after applying for reaccreditation in January. The last two agencies to have accreditation saw their licenses expire in April.
Officials in the Education and Science Ministry, the main government body that deals with international adoption, blamed the delay on bureaucratic hassles, pointing out that each application needed approval from the Interior and Foreign ministries.
Some child advocates, however, suggested that the authorities might have deliberately thrown a wrench into the works because of hostility toward foreign adoption.
Whatever the case, the impasse seems to have ended.
"We believe this to be a substantial step in the direction of the stability of Russian adoption," reads a statement on the web site of the International Assistance Group, one of the agencies that was reaccredited.
The statement appears along with a copy of the agency's new accreditation document from the Education and Science Ministry, dated June 27.
Atwood, of the National Council for Adoption, said he was happy that the agencies had been reaccredited, but he added that the transition to the new rules could have been smoother for the sake of the children waiting for homes.
The seven U.S. agencies to be reaccredited represent only a small portion of the 89 foreign agencies to have accreditation in 2006 before the new requirements went into place. It was not clear Wednesday whether any foreign agencies from countries other than the United States had been reaccredited.
The director of a Moscow charity that works with mentally disabled children expressed happiness at the news when a reporter told him about it. "The government has taken a great step," said Sergei Andrushin, the director of Diema's Dream. "What you said is simply wonderful."
The National Council for Adoption identified the seven agencies to be reaccredited as The Cradle, based in Evanston, Illinois; Cradle of Hope, based in Silver Spring, Maryland; Family and Children's Agency, based in Norwalk, Connecticut; Frank Adoption Center, based in Raleigh, North Carolina; International Assistance Group, based in Oakmont, Pennsylvania; Children's Home Society & Family Services, based in St. Paul, Minnesota; and Catholic Social Services.
new accrediation news out of RUssia
I've received a lot of email and phone calls from friends with the news of the agencies who have received accreditation in Russia.
First, the facts: According to the Ministry of Education website (the Russian department that oversees orphanages and adoptions)...each agency was given permission to operate in a separate ministerial order. The orders were all issued the same day (June 27, 2007), with identical text except for the name of the agency. They were issued in sequential order, as is normal practice for the MoE's official orders. Since they were all issued the same day, sequentially, it is fair to say that all of these agencies were given permission to operate simultaneously. However, for those among us who love to pick at details, I will list them in the sequential order that the MoE granted them:
Order Number / Agency Name
No. 183 - L'Agence Francaise d'Adoption (French Adoption Agency)
No. 184 - Children's Home Society and Family Services
No. 185 - Frank Adoption Center, North Carolina
No. 186 - Cradle of Hope Adoption Center, Inc.
No. 187 - Catholic Social Services of the Diocese of Charlotte, North Carolina
No. 188 - International Assistance Group (IAG)
No. 189 - Cradle Society
No. 190 - Family and Children's Agency, Inc.
Now - to answer some questions:
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR US? Nothing really. None of these agencies work in Irkutsk. There are VERY FEW that do. The agency names we would be more excited about are: Nightlight or Crossroads. Bethany works in Irkutsk too - but they are partnered with Nightlight (I think). ARC (Adoption Resource Center) also used to work in Irkutsk, but (if I remember right) they were the agency who was involved with the Hilt murder - so I doubt they will get accreditation back (even if they do, I wouldn't want to be partnered with them).
WHEN ARE MORE AGENCIES GOING TO BE ACCREDITED? From what I have seen, the best guess I can say is that another group will be announced sometime early Fall (maybe late September).
HAVE WE CONTACTED THESE OR ANY OTHER AGENCY TO HELP US? Of course. We contacted MANY agencies in the past 2 years. Most told us what we already knew - they don't work in Irkutsk. One that does work in Irkutsk told us that when they get accreditation back, that we should contact them at that time - and they could possibly help us. What this would mean is that we would (again) start over - we would have to pay the initial fees to this new agency, go to the back of their line etc. Not something we are real interested in doing.
DO WE HAVE AN AGENCY? No. The agency we were working with was the agency who represented the Hilt adoption - and we all know how that ended up. Because of the black mark against this agency, we can not have any affiliation with them or anyone who has (or is) working with them - if we ever want to complete the adoption. This advice came straight from Irkutsk. Thankfully, they did not do our home study - I know of other families who had their home study rejected by courts in other parts of Russia because of the agency.
I hope this answers all of the questions. If not - feel free to post them here!
First, the facts: According to the Ministry of Education website (the Russian department that oversees orphanages and adoptions)...each agency was given permission to operate in a separate ministerial order. The orders were all issued the same day (June 27, 2007), with identical text except for the name of the agency. They were issued in sequential order, as is normal practice for the MoE's official orders. Since they were all issued the same day, sequentially, it is fair to say that all of these agencies were given permission to operate simultaneously. However, for those among us who love to pick at details, I will list them in the sequential order that the MoE granted them:
Order Number / Agency Name
No. 183 - L'Agence Francaise d'Adoption (French Adoption Agency)
No. 184 - Children's Home Society and Family Services
No. 185 - Frank Adoption Center, North Carolina
No. 186 - Cradle of Hope Adoption Center, Inc.
No. 187 - Catholic Social Services of the Diocese of Charlotte, North Carolina
No. 188 - International Assistance Group (IAG)
No. 189 - Cradle Society
No. 190 - Family and Children's Agency, Inc.
Now - to answer some questions:
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR US? Nothing really. None of these agencies work in Irkutsk. There are VERY FEW that do. The agency names we would be more excited about are: Nightlight or Crossroads. Bethany works in Irkutsk too - but they are partnered with Nightlight (I think). ARC (Adoption Resource Center) also used to work in Irkutsk, but (if I remember right) they were the agency who was involved with the Hilt murder - so I doubt they will get accreditation back (even if they do, I wouldn't want to be partnered with them).
WHEN ARE MORE AGENCIES GOING TO BE ACCREDITED? From what I have seen, the best guess I can say is that another group will be announced sometime early Fall (maybe late September).
HAVE WE CONTACTED THESE OR ANY OTHER AGENCY TO HELP US? Of course. We contacted MANY agencies in the past 2 years. Most told us what we already knew - they don't work in Irkutsk. One that does work in Irkutsk told us that when they get accreditation back, that we should contact them at that time - and they could possibly help us. What this would mean is that we would (again) start over - we would have to pay the initial fees to this new agency, go to the back of their line etc. Not something we are real interested in doing.
DO WE HAVE AN AGENCY? No. The agency we were working with was the agency who represented the Hilt adoption - and we all know how that ended up. Because of the black mark against this agency, we can not have any affiliation with them or anyone who has (or is) working with them - if we ever want to complete the adoption. This advice came straight from Irkutsk. Thankfully, they did not do our home study - I know of other families who had their home study rejected by courts in other parts of Russia because of the agency.
I hope this answers all of the questions. If not - feel free to post them here!
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
fun website
This is a fun website - kind of a spoof on all things Russian. Be sure to click on the icons at the bottom of the page.
Tuesday, July 03, 2007
Adoption Update July 2, 2007
THIS WEEK'S UPDATE
We have started redoing all of our documents. In the process of gathering all the information to get this done, we found out that the way our state apostilles and certifies documents is not in accordance with the specifications outlined in the Hague Convention. Basically, what this means, is that we need to get the Secretary of State to agree to change the way they've been apostilling documents. I am sure this is not going to be an easy change. The change required is simple - the size of the piece of paper. But any change in procedure with a government office I know will be fought with opposition.
The task of redoing all the paperwork is daunting (to say the least). We are trying to find one local lawyer to help us consolidate all the legal paperwork we have to update. Currently, we have documents from 4 different lawyers.
Our friend who lives in Irkutsk has agreed to help us when we visit. We hope that she will be available to serve as our interpreter. She is the one who visited Anya monthly when she was in Baby Home #2.
Pray for Court Hearing This Week
The French family that I've written about before has a court date in Irkutsk on Friday at 10am. That is 9pm Thursday night our time. This is the family who went about getting a court date in a unique way-the same means we're going to try. Please join with us in praying at 9pm Thursday night for a successful court hearing for Jeannine.
We have started redoing all of our documents. In the process of gathering all the information to get this done, we found out that the way our state apostilles and certifies documents is not in accordance with the specifications outlined in the Hague Convention. Basically, what this means, is that we need to get the Secretary of State to agree to change the way they've been apostilling documents. I am sure this is not going to be an easy change. The change required is simple - the size of the piece of paper. But any change in procedure with a government office I know will be fought with opposition.
The task of redoing all the paperwork is daunting (to say the least). We are trying to find one local lawyer to help us consolidate all the legal paperwork we have to update. Currently, we have documents from 4 different lawyers.
Our friend who lives in Irkutsk has agreed to help us when we visit. We hope that she will be available to serve as our interpreter. She is the one who visited Anya monthly when she was in Baby Home #2.
Pray for Court Hearing This Week
The French family that I've written about before has a court date in Irkutsk on Friday at 10am. That is 9pm Thursday night our time. This is the family who went about getting a court date in a unique way-the same means we're going to try. Please join with us in praying at 9pm Thursday night for a successful court hearing for Jeannine.
Friday, June 29, 2007
Adoption Update - June 26, 2007
NEW UPDATE
The good, the bad and the ugly.
THE GOOD
We were able to confirm the rumors about Irkutsk being closed to adoptions was just that - a rumor. The Adoption Center continues to accept applications from International Families.
THE BAD
Our travel plans are all messed up. Initially, our plan was to go to Irkutsk July 21 - 31. We just found out 2 things that will prevent us from making the trip at that time. First, Anya is at camp through the 30th of July. We could visit her there, but it isn't the best situation.
Second, the officials we were going to meet with are not able to see us during this time. Typically, all government offices close for vacation the month of August, however we have requested appointments with these officials - and are waiting to continue our travel plans until we hear from them.
THE UGLY
Paperwork. All of the documents in our dossier have expired. This means we have to completely re-do our dossier - AGAIN. Roughly 125 documents need to be updated.
In trying to see the bright side of things, another week to complete this will be helpful. In the past, it has taken me 4-6 weeks to completely re-do our dossier.
THANK YOU!
Thanks to all of you who have called and emailed us notes of encouragement. It has been an emotionally difficult and exhausting week. Your kind words and prayers give us strength!
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
The good, the bad and the ugly.
THE GOOD
We were able to confirm the rumors about Irkutsk being closed to adoptions was just that - a rumor. The Adoption Center continues to accept applications from International Families.
THE BAD
Our travel plans are all messed up. Initially, our plan was to go to Irkutsk July 21 - 31. We just found out 2 things that will prevent us from making the trip at that time. First, Anya is at camp through the 30th of July. We could visit her there, but it isn't the best situation.
Second, the officials we were going to meet with are not able to see us during this time. Typically, all government offices close for vacation the month of August, however we have requested appointments with these officials - and are waiting to continue our travel plans until we hear from them.
THE UGLY
Paperwork. All of the documents in our dossier have expired. This means we have to completely re-do our dossier - AGAIN. Roughly 125 documents need to be updated.
In trying to see the bright side of things, another week to complete this will be helpful. In the past, it has taken me 4-6 weeks to completely re-do our dossier.
THANK YOU!
Thanks to all of you who have called and emailed us notes of encouragement. It has been an emotionally difficult and exhausting week. Your kind words and prayers give us strength!
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adoption Newsletter June 21, 2007
THIS WEEK'S UPDATE
Several things happened this week. We were able to obtain enough frequent flyer miles to get tickets to Irkutsk. We have our Travel Agent working on it.
Anya turned 5 on Thursday (the 21st). We thought we might get an email with a photo of her on her birthday, but haven't received anything yet.
Some rumors have surfaced on one of the chat boards. Someone posted that they just returned from a trip to Russia (not Irkutsk) and was told that Irkutsk was closed to international adoptions. If this were true, this would mean that no international adoptions would happen within Irkutsk - period. We don't know if it is true, and are trying to get confirmation or denial from a credible source.
Information like this has popped up A LOT over the past 3 years. 95% of the time, the information isn't accurate, and is the result of the negative attitude and culture in Russia. Intellectually, we know not to read too much into information like this - however, maybe because of the timing, this info hit us like a ton of bricks.
One fact we know is that French and Spanish families have court dates within the next few weeks.
Another fact we have is that when this has happened in other regions, families who have traveled on Trip 1 (which we did in Oct 2004), and who have presented their dossier to the court (which we have) are granted court dates.
Having said that, we also know that things that happen in Irkutsk have no rhyme or reason to what is typical.
A good case could also be made to say that the region is closed (and has been closed) for quite some time-since they have not granted any American court hearings in 2 years-essentially, they have been closed. So the rumor could be semantics and what is lost in translation.
We just have to believe that God is in control...and pray through this - like we've prayed through so many things over the past 3 years.
THANK YOU!
Please pray for the rumors to be squelched, and for God to make a perfect way for us to bring Anya home, SOON!
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Several things happened this week. We were able to obtain enough frequent flyer miles to get tickets to Irkutsk. We have our Travel Agent working on it.
Anya turned 5 on Thursday (the 21st). We thought we might get an email with a photo of her on her birthday, but haven't received anything yet.
Some rumors have surfaced on one of the chat boards. Someone posted that they just returned from a trip to Russia (not Irkutsk) and was told that Irkutsk was closed to international adoptions. If this were true, this would mean that no international adoptions would happen within Irkutsk - period. We don't know if it is true, and are trying to get confirmation or denial from a credible source.
Information like this has popped up A LOT over the past 3 years. 95% of the time, the information isn't accurate, and is the result of the negative attitude and culture in Russia. Intellectually, we know not to read too much into information like this - however, maybe because of the timing, this info hit us like a ton of bricks.
One fact we know is that French and Spanish families have court dates within the next few weeks.
Another fact we have is that when this has happened in other regions, families who have traveled on Trip 1 (which we did in Oct 2004), and who have presented their dossier to the court (which we have) are granted court dates.
Having said that, we also know that things that happen in Irkutsk have no rhyme or reason to what is typical.
A good case could also be made to say that the region is closed (and has been closed) for quite some time-since they have not granted any American court hearings in 2 years-essentially, they have been closed. So the rumor could be semantics and what is lost in translation.
We just have to believe that God is in control...and pray through this - like we've prayed through so many things over the past 3 years.
THANK YOU!
Please pray for the rumors to be squelched, and for God to make a perfect way for us to bring Anya home, SOON!
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Friday, June 15, 2007
Adoption Newsletter June 15, 2007
From: Kathy and Marty Friend
Subject: Adoption Prayers-11
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption prayer Friday
#11 June 15, 2007
Bring Anya Home Blog
THIS WEEK'S UPDATE
We just found out that the other family who has been working on getting a court date via a non-traditional means has been successful. Her court date is the first week of July. We are praying for a successful court hearing!
Going the route that this other family has - is going to require a trip to Irkutsk to personal meet with various officials. Since we've been planning a trip this summer, timing is perfect. We are 25,000 ff miles away from being able to go. Considering when we starting planning - we needed over 100,000 - this is really good news! Thanks to so many of you who generously gave us your extra Delta miles!
Everything has to fall into place within the next week or so in order for us to have enough time to get updated documents, an invitation and Visa.
THANK YOU!
We continue to pray for everything to fall into place in an amazing way so we are able to go to Russia the end of July.
We are also praying for our travel agent friend - that when she calls Delta on our behalf to book our tickets, that the seats will be available, and that we will have more than enough frequent flyer miles to get from South Bend to Irkutsk.
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Subject: Adoption Prayers-11
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption prayer Friday
#11 June 15, 2007
Bring Anya Home Blog
THIS WEEK'S UPDATE
We just found out that the other family who has been working on getting a court date via a non-traditional means has been successful. Her court date is the first week of July. We are praying for a successful court hearing!
Going the route that this other family has - is going to require a trip to Irkutsk to personal meet with various officials. Since we've been planning a trip this summer, timing is perfect. We are 25,000 ff miles away from being able to go. Considering when we starting planning - we needed over 100,000 - this is really good news! Thanks to so many of you who generously gave us your extra Delta miles!
Everything has to fall into place within the next week or so in order for us to have enough time to get updated documents, an invitation and Visa.
THANK YOU!
We continue to pray for everything to fall into place in an amazing way so we are able to go to Russia the end of July.
We are also praying for our travel agent friend - that when she calls Delta on our behalf to book our tickets, that the seats will be available, and that we will have more than enough frequent flyer miles to get from South Bend to Irkutsk.
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adoption Newsletter June 9, 2007
From: Kathy and Marty Friend
Subject: Adoption Prayers-10
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption prayer Friday #10 June 9, 2007
Bring Anya Home Blog
THIS WEEK'S UPDATE
Not much to update this week. We're waiting to hear from our lawyer what documents need to be updated.
THANK YOU!
We are praying to God make a way for us to go to go to Russia this summer. We are getting closer! We've asked when Anya is going to camp - just to be sure we don't schedule something during that time. Our goal is to go the end of July...if God makes a way for us to go - consider our bags packed!
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Subject: Adoption Prayers-10
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption prayer Friday #10 June 9, 2007
Bring Anya Home Blog
THIS WEEK'S UPDATE
Not much to update this week. We're waiting to hear from our lawyer what documents need to be updated.
THANK YOU!
We are praying to God make a way for us to go to go to Russia this summer. We are getting closer! We've asked when Anya is going to camp - just to be sure we don't schedule something during that time. Our goal is to go the end of July...if God makes a way for us to go - consider our bags packed!
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Friday, June 01, 2007
Adoption Newsletter May 28, 2007
adoption prayer Friday #8 May 28, 2007
Bring Anya Home Blog
I apologize for the delay in this week's update. Things have been quiet the past few weeks. No updates to report. The Judge is still on vacation. We learned about another angle a French family tried to get a court date. They have received a date, however it is yet to be seen if they are successful at the court hearing. What this family has done might be something for us to consider. We have asked our lawyer about this possibility. This "new" idea would require a trip to Irkutsk - which is something we are still praying about. We hope that God makes an amazing way for us to afford the cost of a 10 day trip to see our little girl!
THANK YOU!
This weekend, we have been in constant prayer for our situation. We have had conversation with those who are prayer-warriors with us, we believe that our prayers need to continue to be specific. We want the doors that seem to be locked - miraculously open!
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Bring Anya Home Blog
I apologize for the delay in this week's update. Things have been quiet the past few weeks. No updates to report. The Judge is still on vacation. We learned about another angle a French family tried to get a court date. They have received a date, however it is yet to be seen if they are successful at the court hearing. What this family has done might be something for us to consider. We have asked our lawyer about this possibility. This "new" idea would require a trip to Irkutsk - which is something we are still praying about. We hope that God makes an amazing way for us to afford the cost of a 10 day trip to see our little girl!
THANK YOU!
This weekend, we have been in constant prayer for our situation. We have had conversation with those who are prayer-warriors with us, we believe that our prayers need to continue to be specific. We want the doors that seem to be locked - miraculously open!
Thank you for being on this journey with us!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adoption Newsletter May 17, 2007
adoption prayer Friday #7 May 17, 2007
3 years ago we received information about a little girl in Russia who was going to be turning 2. We accepted this referral, and agreed to travel 1/2 way around the world to meet her.
1 year ago we were with Anya in Russia. We purchased gifts and planned a party for her 4th birthday, although we were not with her on her day, I am sure she felt like a special princess! We were so hopeful that she would be with us celebrating her 5th birthday.
This past week was a quiet one. We were able to make contact with the local Russian family who is helping us. We received a very nice email from them, expressing their commitment to continue to do whatever they can to help us bring Anya home.
The Judge has been on a 2 week vacation. She returns next week. Our lawyer will try (again) to make an appointment with her and submit our documents in request for a court date. The past 3 times this has happened, it has only yielded more paperwork, however God does work wonders!
We are feeling the stress and exhaustion of the past 3 years.
THANK YOU!
This week, we will again be fasting and praying on Friday with the hopes that a miracle happens in the upcoming week. Thank you for supporting us and not questioning our intensity of our drive to bring Anya home. We know you are all as tired as we are praying for this.
Love,
Marty and Kathy
3 years ago we received information about a little girl in Russia who was going to be turning 2. We accepted this referral, and agreed to travel 1/2 way around the world to meet her.
1 year ago we were with Anya in Russia. We purchased gifts and planned a party for her 4th birthday, although we were not with her on her day, I am sure she felt like a special princess! We were so hopeful that she would be with us celebrating her 5th birthday.
This past week was a quiet one. We were able to make contact with the local Russian family who is helping us. We received a very nice email from them, expressing their commitment to continue to do whatever they can to help us bring Anya home.
The Judge has been on a 2 week vacation. She returns next week. Our lawyer will try (again) to make an appointment with her and submit our documents in request for a court date. The past 3 times this has happened, it has only yielded more paperwork, however God does work wonders!
We are feeling the stress and exhaustion of the past 3 years.
THANK YOU!
This week, we will again be fasting and praying on Friday with the hopes that a miracle happens in the upcoming week. Thank you for supporting us and not questioning our intensity of our drive to bring Anya home. We know you are all as tired as we are praying for this.
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adoption Newsletter May 11, 2007
adoption prayer Friday #6 May 11, 2007
As with each passing week, something positive seems to continue to happen. Even if the progress is barely detectible - it is progress nonetheless.
This past week, we were able to make contact with the man from the Russian Consulate's office. He advised us to send a letter to him that he will deliver via diplomatic courier to Moscow. One of the other families who is waiting is helping us with the letter. We are very grateful for any help we can get!
We also have been able to drill down our schedules to find a time-frame to plan a trip to see Anya. As luck would have it, the week we will have free happens to be the week she will turn 5! Her birthday this year is a bittersweet one - as on her 2nd birthday we accepted her as a referral, and made the decision to travel to Russia to see her. We never imagined that on her 5th birthday she wouldn't be in our home celebrating.
This week, we will again be fasting and praying on Friday with the hopes that a miracle happens in the upcoming week. Thank you for supporting us and joining with us on this journey!
THANK YOU!
Again, we are humbled by your friendship and unwavering faith.
Love,
Marty and Kathy
As with each passing week, something positive seems to continue to happen. Even if the progress is barely detectible - it is progress nonetheless.
This past week, we were able to make contact with the man from the Russian Consulate's office. He advised us to send a letter to him that he will deliver via diplomatic courier to Moscow. One of the other families who is waiting is helping us with the letter. We are very grateful for any help we can get!
We also have been able to drill down our schedules to find a time-frame to plan a trip to see Anya. As luck would have it, the week we will have free happens to be the week she will turn 5! Her birthday this year is a bittersweet one - as on her 2nd birthday we accepted her as a referral, and made the decision to travel to Russia to see her. We never imagined that on her 5th birthday she wouldn't be in our home celebrating.
This week, we will again be fasting and praying on Friday with the hopes that a miracle happens in the upcoming week. Thank you for supporting us and joining with us on this journey!
THANK YOU!
Again, we are humbled by your friendship and unwavering faith.
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adoption Newsletter May 4, 2007
adoption prayer Friday #5 May 4, 2007
I can't believe we're going into the 5th week of the praying and fasting. Your prayers are paying off - We were FINALLY able to get in touch with someone at the Consulate's office this week. The man we spoke to was very nice, and had not every heard of the problems in Irkutsk - we found that curious, since our State Department has told me that they had contacted the Russian Embassy and Consulate! When I mentioned to the man at the Consulate's office that I was calling representing approximately 20 American families - he made me repeat that statement several times. He even said to me "I apologize that there are so many American families having this problem in Irkutsk, I will collaborate with my colleagues and call you back with a plan".
Of course, we don't know what (if anything) will ever come of this conversation, but it was encouraging none the less.
SPECIFIC PRAYERS
We would like to pray specifically for the following this week:
Favor with anyone and everyone who has anything to do with adoptions in Irkutsk
Anya's happiness, health and safety
For the Judge in Irkutsk
We are trying to schedule a flight to go and see Anya. Of course, this time of the year, traveling to Europe is VERY expensive. Typically, flights are roughly $850 - $1,000 each. Now they are $1,800 and up! In checking on frequent flyer miles, the miles requirement seems to have gone up as well.
We want to go and see Anya in late June or July. It's been over a year since we have seen her - and not knowing what she is doing, how she is, how big she is gets harder with every tick of the clock.
Many of you have said that you have frequent flyer miles that you would like to transfer to us. We received an email today from Delta that they are waiving the transfer fee on Delta miles...and the cost is only .01cent a mile. The details are to the left of this message.
THANK YOU!
We would like to thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your passion, prayers and support with us on this journey. Your willingness to stand by us as friends in prayer means more to us than words can explain. Many of you have told us stories of your time of prayer and/or fasting. We have one group who is fasting that has added us to their prayers...one man has fasted for more than 38 days, another over 14, and yet another more than 7. Thank you for believing, like we do, that we will be victorious. We will win this fight, and Anya will be in our home with our family soon!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
I can't believe we're going into the 5th week of the praying and fasting. Your prayers are paying off - We were FINALLY able to get in touch with someone at the Consulate's office this week. The man we spoke to was very nice, and had not every heard of the problems in Irkutsk - we found that curious, since our State Department has told me that they had contacted the Russian Embassy and Consulate! When I mentioned to the man at the Consulate's office that I was calling representing approximately 20 American families - he made me repeat that statement several times. He even said to me "I apologize that there are so many American families having this problem in Irkutsk, I will collaborate with my colleagues and call you back with a plan".
Of course, we don't know what (if anything) will ever come of this conversation, but it was encouraging none the less.
SPECIFIC PRAYERS
We would like to pray specifically for the following this week:
Favor with anyone and everyone who has anything to do with adoptions in Irkutsk
Anya's happiness, health and safety
For the Judge in Irkutsk
We are trying to schedule a flight to go and see Anya. Of course, this time of the year, traveling to Europe is VERY expensive. Typically, flights are roughly $850 - $1,000 each. Now they are $1,800 and up! In checking on frequent flyer miles, the miles requirement seems to have gone up as well.
We want to go and see Anya in late June or July. It's been over a year since we have seen her - and not knowing what she is doing, how she is, how big she is gets harder with every tick of the clock.
Many of you have said that you have frequent flyer miles that you would like to transfer to us. We received an email today from Delta that they are waiving the transfer fee on Delta miles...and the cost is only .01cent a mile. The details are to the left of this message.
THANK YOU!
We would like to thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your passion, prayers and support with us on this journey. Your willingness to stand by us as friends in prayer means more to us than words can explain. Many of you have told us stories of your time of prayer and/or fasting. We have one group who is fasting that has added us to their prayers...one man has fasted for more than 38 days, another over 14, and yet another more than 7. Thank you for believing, like we do, that we will be victorious. We will win this fight, and Anya will be in our home with our family soon!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adoption Update April 27, 2007
adoption prayer Friday #4 April 27, 2007
We are continuing to try to get a meeting with the Russian Consulate in Washington DC. We're not having much luck finding the right person to talk to. But - we are hopeful that it will happen.
We are also waiting to hear from the Russian family in Granger we made contact with. We hope to hear from them this week with an update.
...so this week, it has been a lot of waiting. Something we've grown accustomed to!
Today is the 5th Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
This week we will be in constant prayer all day. Our fasting will be in terms of 'acting' (if that makes sense).
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story that will come from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
We are continuing to try to get a meeting with the Russian Consulate in Washington DC. We're not having much luck finding the right person to talk to. But - we are hopeful that it will happen.
We are also waiting to hear from the Russian family in Granger we made contact with. We hope to hear from them this week with an update.
...so this week, it has been a lot of waiting. Something we've grown accustomed to!
Today is the 5th Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
This week we will be in constant prayer all day. Our fasting will be in terms of 'acting' (if that makes sense).
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story that will come from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adoption Newsletter April 20, 2007
adoption prayer Friday #4 April 20, 2007
This has been another encouraging week. The families who are waiting with us continue to come together - united to do whatever it takes to get our children home.
We are requesting a meeting with the Russian Consulate's office in Washington DC. We are working with someone at the State Department to help us get this meeting. We're hoping this will happen in the next few weeks. More on this later.
We're waiting to hear from the Russian family we met. They will be writing a letter to the governor of Irkutsk on our behalf. We hope that letter is delivered in the next 2 weeks.
Today is the 4th Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
This week Kathy will be fasting all beverages except water and the TV channel she seems to be addicted to (the E! Channel), and Marty is going to try to get through the day without caffeine and sugar.
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story that will come from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
This has been another encouraging week. The families who are waiting with us continue to come together - united to do whatever it takes to get our children home.
We are requesting a meeting with the Russian Consulate's office in Washington DC. We are working with someone at the State Department to help us get this meeting. We're hoping this will happen in the next few weeks. More on this later.
We're waiting to hear from the Russian family we met. They will be writing a letter to the governor of Irkutsk on our behalf. We hope that letter is delivered in the next 2 weeks.
Today is the 4th Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
This week Kathy will be fasting all beverages except water and the TV channel she seems to be addicted to (the E! Channel), and Marty is going to try to get through the day without caffeine and sugar.
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story that will come from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adoption Newsletter April 13, 2007
adoption prayer Friday #3 April 13, 2007
"This kind (of evil) can come out only
by prayer and fasting"
UPDATE
Well, what a whirlwind week! I know I have said it before, but it is amazing to me what happens when people pray.
Seems like so much has happened in a week; chatter and energy continue to rise with those parents waiting to adopt children from Irkutsk. We're all banning together in a wonderful way, as a united force. We are deciding to make a lot of noise. Our government isn't willing to help us; however there is someone with the State Department who seems to have a heart. This woman is someone we've spoken to in the past, but now there are many families all telling her the same story. So - who knows? We are planning to file a complaint with the Human Rights board in Russia for violations and discrimination because we are American. This will only be successful if all of the waiting families do this together. It is looking like we have everyone's support!
We also have been able to make contact this week with a Russian family. This family has members in the Russian government. They seem to be willing to help us, to write personal letters on official government stationary - pretty amazing. We are praying that if this is the way we are supposed to take to bring Anya home, that the path continue to be easy, well defined and swift!
Today is the third Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
This week I will be fasting candy and dinner - and my usual wine with Friday night dinner. Marty is going to be fasting sugar (all things sweet - that includes cookies!). I am trying to convince him to fast working on this computer program project (thing I don't understand) - but I haven't completely convinced him that is a good idea (yet!).
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
"This kind (of evil) can come out only
by prayer and fasting"
UPDATE
Well, what a whirlwind week! I know I have said it before, but it is amazing to me what happens when people pray.
Seems like so much has happened in a week; chatter and energy continue to rise with those parents waiting to adopt children from Irkutsk. We're all banning together in a wonderful way, as a united force. We are deciding to make a lot of noise. Our government isn't willing to help us; however there is someone with the State Department who seems to have a heart. This woman is someone we've spoken to in the past, but now there are many families all telling her the same story. So - who knows? We are planning to file a complaint with the Human Rights board in Russia for violations and discrimination because we are American. This will only be successful if all of the waiting families do this together. It is looking like we have everyone's support!
We also have been able to make contact this week with a Russian family. This family has members in the Russian government. They seem to be willing to help us, to write personal letters on official government stationary - pretty amazing. We are praying that if this is the way we are supposed to take to bring Anya home, that the path continue to be easy, well defined and swift!
Today is the third Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
This week I will be fasting candy and dinner - and my usual wine with Friday night dinner. Marty is going to be fasting sugar (all things sweet - that includes cookies!). I am trying to convince him to fast working on this computer program project (thing I don't understand) - but I haven't completely convinced him that is a good idea (yet!).
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adtion Newsletter from April 5, 2007
From: Kathy and Marty Friend
Subject: Adoption Prayers-2
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption prayer Friday #2 April 5, 2007
"This kind (of evil) can come out only by prayer and fasting"
Dear friends,
Again, thank you for praying with on on this journey. It continues to amaze us what happens when people pray!
UPDATE
Over the past week, we've been brainstorming ideas on how to get things in Irkutsk moving again. It occurred to us that if in fact we are the only family who has submitted documents to the Judge in Irkutsk - what would her motivation be to help just one family. We had never thought of this in these terms before.
We also started thinking about the French families who have been able to get several successful court dates to bring children home this year. They came together, and found strength in numbers.
Again, we went back to how powerful can only 'one' be?
In doing some research online, a friend found at least 2 other families who have also presented documents to the Judge in the recent past. There area also several families who are gathering documents to be presented to the Judge in the near future.
PLAN TO GET TO THE HEART OF THE JUDGE
In the past week, another waiting parent made a decision to 'do something'. She is gathering photographs of children who have been adopted from Irkutsk. With these photos, she is putting together a scrap book showing the kids before and after...and telling a little story of each, to show the Judge how happy and healthy they are.
The scrap book will also include some photos of waiting families - and pictures of empty bedrooms that are waiting to be filled with children.
We hope to be able to send this to the Judge in the next 2 weeks in an effort to appeal to her emotions - to show that the kids are very happy and healthy...and the children who are waiting to be adopted are loved, and the families who are waiting are well prepared to bring them into tier homes.
Today is the second Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
Last week, we fasted candy, juice and caffeine. For those of you who know us well, you can appreciate what life was like in our house last Friday!
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Subject: Adoption Prayers-2
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption prayer Friday #2 April 5, 2007
"This kind (of evil) can come out only by prayer and fasting"
Dear friends,
Again, thank you for praying with on on this journey. It continues to amaze us what happens when people pray!
UPDATE
Over the past week, we've been brainstorming ideas on how to get things in Irkutsk moving again. It occurred to us that if in fact we are the only family who has submitted documents to the Judge in Irkutsk - what would her motivation be to help just one family. We had never thought of this in these terms before.
We also started thinking about the French families who have been able to get several successful court dates to bring children home this year. They came together, and found strength in numbers.
Again, we went back to how powerful can only 'one' be?
In doing some research online, a friend found at least 2 other families who have also presented documents to the Judge in the recent past. There area also several families who are gathering documents to be presented to the Judge in the near future.
PLAN TO GET TO THE HEART OF THE JUDGE
In the past week, another waiting parent made a decision to 'do something'. She is gathering photographs of children who have been adopted from Irkutsk. With these photos, she is putting together a scrap book showing the kids before and after...and telling a little story of each, to show the Judge how happy and healthy they are.
The scrap book will also include some photos of waiting families - and pictures of empty bedrooms that are waiting to be filled with children.
We hope to be able to send this to the Judge in the next 2 weeks in an effort to appeal to her emotions - to show that the kids are very happy and healthy...and the children who are waiting to be adopted are loved, and the families who are waiting are well prepared to bring them into tier homes.
Today is the second Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
Last week, we fasted candy, juice and caffeine. For those of you who know us well, you can appreciate what life was like in our house last Friday!
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adtion Newsletter from March 30, 2006
From: Kathy and Marty Friend
Subject: Adoption Prayers-1
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption prayer Friday #1 March 30, 2007
"This kind (of evil) can come out only by prayer and fasting"
Dear friends,
Thank you for your overwhelming response to our request for prayer and fasting. We are also praying and fasting with the many families who have adopted children from Irkutsk over the years, and those who continue to wait (like us). We estimate that we have over 100 people who have committed to this prayer, and are joining with us today. THIS IS INCREDIBLE!
Today is the first Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Subject: Adoption Prayers-1
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption prayer Friday #1 March 30, 2007
"This kind (of evil) can come out only by prayer and fasting"
Dear friends,
Thank you for your overwhelming response to our request for prayer and fasting. We are also praying and fasting with the many families who have adopted children from Irkutsk over the years, and those who continue to wait (like us). We estimate that we have over 100 people who have committed to this prayer, and are joining with us today. THIS IS INCREDIBLE!
Today is the first Friday we are fasting and praying for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome to bring the children waiting in Irkutsk home. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting we all not eat for 24 hours. Some things our friends have decided to fast include:
the Internet
dinner out
sugar
coffee
smoking
soap operas
video games
When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, and say a little prayer for Anya.
Our Faith and strength might not make sense to all of you. Phil 4:13 says 'For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength' - This is the strength that keeps us fighting to bring Anya home!
Looking forward to the incredible story from our prayers!
Love,
Marty and Kathy
Adoption Newsletter from March 23, 2007
From: Kathy and Marty Friend
Subject: Adoption update
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption update late March 2007
"This kind (of evil) can come out only by prayer and fasting"
Dear friends,
In the past few weeks, we've been prayerfully considering what our next step should be with the adoption. We've listened intently to the advice of those we admire and respect, and have decided at this point in time, we have come to a crossroads; the only way to continue to move forward is consolidated, intense, powerful prayer.
This week we learned the Judge is continuing to refuse to talk to our lawyer (in Russia) about our case. We have also learned that we are in fact the only American family who has presented documents to the Judge in Irkutsk. The only family! This means there are literally, dozens of other American families who are waiting to see what happens with our efforts, before they take a next step.
There was a meeting this past week between the governor (in Russia) and the head of the department of education on international adoptions. Complaints are continuing from European families, and the fact that the Judge has not accepted any American cases is also an issue. Thankfully, to our knowledge, no Americans have filed complaints. With any complaint comes an investigation - in our opinion, any complaint that is filed at this point will be seen as an excuse to continue to prolong giving American court hearings. In other words - don't give court dates until the investigation is over.
We would like to ask you all to join us in weekly prayer and fasting. Each Friday, remember not only our situation, but the overall adoption climate in Irkutsk, and pray for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting that we all not eat for 24 hours. For some, fasting might be not drinking pop for a day, foregoing the internet, a meal, alcohol, sugar or chocolate, anything that is part of your normal day. When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, in the book of Mark 9:28-29, it says, After Jesus had gone indoors, his disciples asked him privately, "Why couldn't we drive it (the evil) out?" He replied, "This kind (of evil) can come out only by prayer and fasting. We believe this is the kind of evil we are working against, which is why we are asking you to join us in this prayer.
We know many of you (our friends) are of different Faiths, different beliefs, and varying ways of worship. We are asking for your powerful, prayerful support each Friday until we bring Anya home. If this is something you are willing to join in with us, please reply to this message. In doing so, your email will be placed on a list, and you will receive a weekly reminder (on Thursdays).
Even if you are not able to join with us in this time of powerful prayer, we want you to know we value your friendship and support of us in this adoption.
It has been a long hard road, and we are in no way considering giving up on our little Anya. She continues to wait for us in an orphanage in Siberia - waiting for her Mama and Papa to come and bring her home. To us, that is enough motivation to keep pressing in, keep praying, and keep on keeping on!
Blessed to call you friend,
Marty and Kathy Friend
Subject: Adoption update
Reply: kathy@mmprod.com
adoption update late March 2007
"This kind (of evil) can come out only by prayer and fasting"
Dear friends,
In the past few weeks, we've been prayerfully considering what our next step should be with the adoption. We've listened intently to the advice of those we admire and respect, and have decided at this point in time, we have come to a crossroads; the only way to continue to move forward is consolidated, intense, powerful prayer.
This week we learned the Judge is continuing to refuse to talk to our lawyer (in Russia) about our case. We have also learned that we are in fact the only American family who has presented documents to the Judge in Irkutsk. The only family! This means there are literally, dozens of other American families who are waiting to see what happens with our efforts, before they take a next step.
There was a meeting this past week between the governor (in Russia) and the head of the department of education on international adoptions. Complaints are continuing from European families, and the fact that the Judge has not accepted any American cases is also an issue. Thankfully, to our knowledge, no Americans have filed complaints. With any complaint comes an investigation - in our opinion, any complaint that is filed at this point will be seen as an excuse to continue to prolong giving American court hearings. In other words - don't give court dates until the investigation is over.
We would like to ask you all to join us in weekly prayer and fasting. Each Friday, remember not only our situation, but the overall adoption climate in Irkutsk, and pray for favor with all the entities that we (and other families) need to overcome. Favor is the key.
By fasting, we're not suggesting that we all not eat for 24 hours. For some, fasting might be not drinking pop for a day, foregoing the internet, a meal, alcohol, sugar or chocolate, anything that is part of your normal day. When you think about that 'thing' you are fasting, remember our prayer for favor, in the book of Mark 9:28-29, it says, After Jesus had gone indoors, his disciples asked him privately, "Why couldn't we drive it (the evil) out?" He replied, "This kind (of evil) can come out only by prayer and fasting. We believe this is the kind of evil we are working against, which is why we are asking you to join us in this prayer.
We know many of you (our friends) are of different Faiths, different beliefs, and varying ways of worship. We are asking for your powerful, prayerful support each Friday until we bring Anya home. If this is something you are willing to join in with us, please reply to this message. In doing so, your email will be placed on a list, and you will receive a weekly reminder (on Thursdays).
Even if you are not able to join with us in this time of powerful prayer, we want you to know we value your friendship and support of us in this adoption.
It has been a long hard road, and we are in no way considering giving up on our little Anya. She continues to wait for us in an orphanage in Siberia - waiting for her Mama and Papa to come and bring her home. To us, that is enough motivation to keep pressing in, keep praying, and keep on keeping on!
Blessed to call you friend,
Marty and Kathy Friend
Thursday, November 23, 2006
Update!
Hello everyone!
I haven't posted in a long time - the main reason being that some of the information I shared here ended up on a chat-site. I just want to reiterate that the information we share here is not for public knowledge. This blog is NOT a public blog, and the information contained within should be considered confidential. We have not, and will not give anyone permission to share the information here on any other blog or chat board.
It is sad that I even have to post the above...the good news is that what was posted (without our permission) wasn't entirely accurate.
Since our trip in May - we've seen significant steps forward with our case - including several meetings with the Judge. I can't share the details of those meetings (for obvious reasons).
I have most of you on this list in a newsletter email list. I can and will share greater details through that. If you would like to receive those email updates, please send me a note and let me know to add your name to the list.
-Kathy and Marty
I haven't posted in a long time - the main reason being that some of the information I shared here ended up on a chat-site. I just want to reiterate that the information we share here is not for public knowledge. This blog is NOT a public blog, and the information contained within should be considered confidential. We have not, and will not give anyone permission to share the information here on any other blog or chat board.
It is sad that I even have to post the above...the good news is that what was posted (without our permission) wasn't entirely accurate.
Since our trip in May - we've seen significant steps forward with our case - including several meetings with the Judge. I can't share the details of those meetings (for obvious reasons).
I have most of you on this list in a newsletter email list. I can and will share greater details through that. If you would like to receive those email updates, please send me a note and let me know to add your name to the list.
-Kathy and Marty
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